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My wife left me

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Hello my name is James, I’m 29 years old. 

in August ‘23 I got my married to the love of my life. The woman I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. We planned to have children next year some time. Life was great. 
until about 4 weeks ago she said she doesn’t love me anymore and she can’t be the person that I need her to be. My whole world got destroyed. I lost my wife, my house, my dogs and my cats. She said maybe in the future we can be civil and maybe even friends. But I don’t think I can do that. I can’t watch her move on from me with potential someone else. I’m already in so much pain I don’t know if my heart can take anymore. Does that make me a bad person? Maybe. I’m scared. Lost. And unsure where I go from here.

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Hi op and so sorry about everything.

First of all though l'm just wondering why "you" lost your dogs and cats and house? Did she get all that and you took nothing, or what ? Depending on who paid and did and owned what but it should be 50 50 you don't even have kids and were only married a few mths you basically don't owe her anything much in just a few mths especially with her leaving you. Why didn't you stay at the house you'd have every right well unless she paid for it all.

And why did she get all the pets ? Unless they were hers to begin with but a bit like the house it depends on who did what as far as getting those pets.


And no it doesn't make you a bad person it's in self preservation . You have no kids to parent together so there's no need to see ea other at all in the future once everything's sorted if you don't choose to. lt's actually healthier for you not to in most cases and will help you move on in the future when that time comes.


Hang in there anyway .


The house will be getting sold and it’ll be 50/50 I was more referring to a home with her type of thing. Pets are 50/50 but due to the living arrangements at the moment I can’t take the pets, so they’ll have to go with her. But as I said before I don’t think I’ll be able to see her after this which means I can’t see my pets.