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Hi everyone, well I didn't think I would do this but here I am, I'm very worried about my husband who has server depression and anxiety and is on medication but has been drinking for a long time. At the moment he can't go with drinking a beer before going to bed, he asks me to get a slab of beer for him each day and by now his system is so use to it. My husband and I have many talks about his mental health and he doesn't really want to talk about it, he knows that I'm very worried about him and he knows that we can't afford the amount of alcohol he drinks. He's best friend has spoken to him about it, I've tried talking to him about it, we've been borrowing money, put stuff on loan and it's embarrassing. I just don't know what else to do. I love him so very much and I wont leave him. Oh I've forgot to mention that I have Major Depression and Anxiety.
Thank you for listening
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Hi Narelle,
I am sorry you are going through such a difficult time. My partner has had major issues with alcohol and I know how worrying it can be. We live separately (met in later life, set in our ways) so he was able to conceal his drinking from me a lot of the time. Of course, I could tell from his voice on the phone at times that he had been drinking and his denial and lies would be very hurtful.
This may seem an odd thing to say, but perhaps it is at least good that he is open about it.
With my partner, it was only a major health scare that finally got him to stop - severe liver failure. It was caused by an accidental paracetamol overdose but it was likely that his liver was unable to cope because of his excess drinking.
Even at the hospital, he was denying his drinking. I had to override him and quietly
inform the doctors about his problem drinking so that they would be properly able to advise him of the risks if he carried on. It wasn't completely smooth sailing afterwards but now he no longer drinks.
Alcohol gets such a hold on people, creates a dependency.
Are you able to go with your husband when he renews his prescriptions? I am thinking you could casually ask the doctor about how alcohol might affect recovery, start the conversation and maybe hearing it from the doctor might give him the courage to start cutting back?
I hope that for both of you, your anxiety and depression lightens soon and you experience happier times.