My husband told me he's not in love with me anymore.
I'm unsure where to start.....
For months I've felt like my husband didn't think I exsisted and wouldn't show any affection towards me so I kept asking him if he's ok, which he'd always respond with yes all is good. Last week after telling him I can't keep going on like this with him being so distant he finally told me his feelings for me aren't as strong anymore and he doesn't know if he wants to be in a relationship anymore and I deserve someone better. I'm so confused because he's still here, still sleeping in our bed, giving me a kiss on the forehead and saying he loves me before work every morning. I keep telling him I'm not giving up on him and he always responds with he's not a good man and I deserve better than him. I don't know what to do as he says he loves and cares for me but he's not as in love with me but he doesn't want to push anything. I'm getting so many mixed messages from him and I've been miserable to the point where I just want to hide and disappear. I just want the pain of it all to stop.
Firstly welcome to the Beyond Blue Forums and thank you for sharing your story with us.
I'm really sorry to hear that you're not in a good place at the moment but it's good that you're reaching out on these forums.
I cannot offer you much advice I am sorry but I can sit with you and chat.
You sound like you love your husband very much. Would he consider some marriage counselling at all? If not, perhaps you could have some counselling on your own first to talk about how you're feeling at the moment.
I noticed he said that "he's not a good man and you deserve better"...could he perhaps be suffering from a bit of depression.
Perhaps you could organise a time to sit down together and really talk about this.
Im thinking of you and here for you. Sorry I couldn't offer more advice.