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Moving out temporarily

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From the age of 9 i have been raped by my brother, it stopped when I turned 12, i reported it to the police and was undergoing therapy for the ptsd. Recently i told my boyfriend and he suggested that I move out and live with him instead . My parents aren't so keen on him and think he's bad for me but I love him. I know my mum wouldn't allow me to move in with him. I don't want to be at home with my brother anymore but sadly have no where else to go, so it's either stay in a house i feel scared and unsafe in or i disobey my mums wishes and move in with my boyfriend anyway.

What should I do? Someone help me

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Hey anonymous_personx,


Welcome to the Forums. We are so deeply sorry to hear what you have been through and we are glad you had the strength and bravery to share this here. Going to the police was an incredibly brave step, as was undergoing therapy.  


We’re reaching out to you privately to make sure you’re ok. If you'd prefer to call us, we're on 1300 22 4636, or you can reach us online via our webchat: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/   


If you'd like to have a chat with one of the lovely people at 1800Respect they're on 1800 737 732, or you can reach them on online chat, here: https://chat.1800respect.org.au/#/welcome 


Thank you again for your courage and strength in sharing your story. If you’d like to share a bit more here about how you’ve been feeling, our kind community will be here to offer their support and understanding.    


Kind regards,  

Sophie M 

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Hello Dear anonymous_personx,


A very warm and caring welcome to our forums…


I’m so deeply sorry that you’ve been through all that…part of my story is so very similar to yours, with my eldest brother…..I want to let you know sweet anonymous that you’re not alone….




Thinking of you with kindness and care,