From what I have read, my understanding is that your partner has gone off medication cold turkey and at another time had an affair?
And the question is whether his actions of going off the medication makes it easier to forgive (?) the affair?
This is not really a question that I can answer.
Whether I answer yes or no, you can easily refute my answer. Only you know the answer to your questions.
Can you forgive and move on with him? Or without him?
Is the going off medication an excuse for his behaviour?
There are many other questions that I havevandcat the same time wonder what you want to do?
It sounds like you care very much about him and these actions make you wonder if this is reciprocated. I know I would feel hurt but don't know how I would react.
Hello Bridge, if your husband stopped taking his medication, cold turkey, then a person would have to be able to cope with this in their own way, because some people could suffer from not taking it and that's probably why he used alcohol to counter this feeling.
Although I'm not a doctor to qualify this, but know that alcohol can be used in many different and difficult situations to counter a feeling that is unpleasant, such as the effects of going cold turkey and then performing 'out of character ' actions which would not normally happen.
This is no excuse for what he has done and it's not my right to say, but getting his doctor's advice of slowly reducing this medication would have been a better choice, rather than suddenly stopping.
This is a decision you need to make, I'm sorry, but perhaps he needs to talk with his doctor because there are a few issues here that need to be sorted out.
Please get back to us when you are available.
We are pleased that you posted your findings about what was going on for your husband when things happened.
We know that society tells us we should end everything if our partner cheats. At the same time, we are told we should forgive, and we should think about what is best for the kids, if there are any, and what is best for our family.
What we know is that whatever you ultimately decide will be the right answer for you, and that is the most important thing for your life. And, after all, you are the only person who is living your life. So, you might try asking yourself:
Is my love for my partner strong enough that I can work through the pain of what happened and continue in our relationship?
We are here for you however you decide.
Hello Bridge, I appreciate what you have said, and when taking medication it tries to correct the lost chemicals in our mind and as soon as you stop taking it, like going cold turkey, the brain can't slowly adjust, it's an enormous change which we aren't capable of accepting, whereas reducing the dosage slowly, we can cope with the change, again I'm not a doctor, but have experienced this myself.
So this affects people in different ways if you stop cold turkey.
I also have to relate this when you stop alcohol, only a small group can go cold turkey, otherwise it can make you do things you wouldn't usually do.
I think it’s human nature for us to try and find meaning in things to understand them. But do I think that withdrawal of anxiety medication caused your partner to become attracted to and cheat with another woman, personally no. I watch a lot of psychology channels out of interest and I remember a sex therapist saying that people have affairs for one of two reasons, because something is missing, either within themselves or within the relationship. A manic episode may have reduced his inhibitions somewhat and made it slightly more likely - but do you know whether he was in a manic episode before he had the affair? It is very common for a person whI remember seeing a post from a famous psychologist discussing the topic and she said that people tend to cheat for two reasons, something missing within the relationship or something missing within themselves. o is having an affair to be in a hyperaroused state or “buzzing” as you put it, similar to how we feel during the initial stages of a relationship. So be careful not to get the two confused. Have you been seeing a couples counselor to work through your issues?
Hello Bridge, thanks for getting back to us and do understand the predicament you are, and realise that the person he did have a r/lationship with, may no longer impress him, which is in your favour and the best part is that you are both making changes, an excellent point on your behalf because it mens you love him.