I guess I took the 2500 character limit as a challenge 🙂 Sorry for waffling on. I'm not even sure what I'm asking for, I just know I feel sad a lot of the time.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts - I don' know if I will be any help, but I am sorry you are feeling sad most of the time 😞 That is a difficult place to be in, especially long-term. It sounds like you definitely want perhaps a couple close friends, to share your life with, I know you said the people in the band you struggle to turn that into friendship, do you have any other hobbies where you are with people that you can possibly connect? (ps thanks for the laugh re: the voting preference lol)
And l'm sorry for the ways things have been running for you. l don't even bother talking politics with anyone imo in this country it's pretty useless bothering. And l can certainly hear you in the friends department , l'm a touch older but have yet to have a lasting friendship. With me one of us has usually moved and we've lost contact in the end that's been happening since l was a kid. Your meeting women though , how do you manage that ? But perhaps it's a new partner for you down the line then more so than the friends stuff. That's always seemed to be the way it goes for me actually.
l don't think your missing much in SM though. l haven't bothered using any of it in yrs myself and wouldn't touch it now. l just find it all a pretty warped up surreal type of world and so far from reality l just don't want it. A few forums is as close as l get these days.
lt's great your seeing your sons , treasure that it's a huge thing. l don't really have any advice sorry, matter of fact l'm in a bit of a similar situation myself as l know many are. So feel free to come in and talk about things anytime.
Hang in there.
I am a software developer. I like to cook and read books. None of those things tend towards meeting people 🙂 Through Facebook I met a lot of people I talked to online, but I can't hold down an account nowadays, which has made me feel more isolated again.
I avoid politics until it's shoved in my face, too. People guess my political bent because I am kind to strangers, usually.
Yeah, my kids are everything, always were.
How did I meet women? Well, I assumed I couldn't do it IRL so I joined dating sites. Most men on those sites are rude, pushy and just looking for sex. I can't tell you how many women told me it was thrilling to have a second date where I didn't ask why were not having sex yet. The bar is pretty low, by being basically respectful and kind I got a lot of interest. I also had a woman try to pick me up in a bar, so turns out I can do that too 🙂
I am very monogamous, I was very happy to turn away from all that and be with my wife again. But it was a huge ego boost to find out that I am actually viable in this big old world after all....
Yeah right , l was on date sites for s short stint quite a few moons back in single days and they told me all the same stuff too, l was quite surprised for here really. lm in a few world wide forums with a lot of UK and US in them and date sites sound bloody terrible over there. Mine here were ok though, met some nice ladies but yeah they did all say the same stuff. l'm very similar to you though in those ways by the sound of it and l had zero interest in sleeping about at the time.
Hope your doing ok
All the best. rx