Loneliness... What choices are there?

[demonblaster]

Loneliness is one of the cruelest underestimated places to be in life. Most of us need people.

This is all too common & wayyyy too many suffer this.

What's out there to help people?

Forums is a good place for many that are shy or depressed and not comfortable face on.

Excercising outside, amongst people, eye contact often connects a smile with people. Lifting

Here & assuming other places in Oz there's through community centres volunteers that visit, take shopping, talk, listen etc or phone calls weekly. (GP would know more)

Public transporting, around people, even if not engaged in convo, still amongst it

Interested hearing suggests

This shouldn't be

[Sad_Mushroom]

Hi DB,

Talking about ourselves is hard. Sometimes leaving the talk about us and what we are feeling can be distracting. Focusing on something else can be good. Chatting with others about a different hobby can be a distraction.

SM

[demonblaster]

Hey Darl 🙂

Distractions good and needed it helps yeah

If we like ourselves then we're in good company

[Guest_1584]

Something l'm asking myself a lot right now , even trying a thread about it.

But , how much should we push ourselves , yknow ? Sometimes and with some things there are times in life we need to push ourselevs but on the other had too , l've always believed that other things in life need to be just left up to life itself to happen.

l feel very lonely and void truth be told right now , although l am really enjoying a lot of my time just hanging out at home at least.

But so l do push myself to get out , go places and do things, to be around people , get out in the world a bit. But , l must admit , l'm wondering lately if l should even bother yknow.

Sometimes l think it comes under the life should be just left to happen thing, maybe we shouldn't push ouselves , maybe things will work out just fine if we give it time , all on their own.

[demonblaster]

Hey Random good to cya ☺

I think when loneliness is causing depression which often goes hand in hand for both pushing is needed otherwise we sink lower. Loneliness as you know its cruel, hollow, empty existence feeling unloved can often be a deep unnecessary pain associated with it.

I read last night havent got back yet your thread on what you do & pushing through whoch is great although you're happy in the house its important to be out occasionally too, ive realised depression works its best when we're alone & immobile so yeah in this situation without pushing I feel its dangerous not too.

Happy to discuss futhur ☺

Take good care all

[demonblaster]

Might have suggested this but going to library, around people, books great company, some have knitting groups so imagine could be other activities too

[Ggrand]

Hello everyone,

I came in here and read the thread, last night I was hit big time by the loneliness bug. I think imo when you are dealing with something your uncertain of and you live alone, or you have no one around to discus your fears, life,future, loneliness hits you harder then ever.

I have one friend in town that I see occasionally, but she is very unwell atm, and I'm missing her, she used to come up mine for a cuppa tea once a week then I would go down to her place the following week, she only lives one minutes drive away, yes I drove there, problems stop me from walking there, just missing her a lot.

This Year I'm hoping that I can get my anxiety controlled a bit so I can do some of the suggestions list on this thread..

Kindness only,

Grandy.

[Scotty2013]

Hi Demon,

In a world that is so connected why do we feel alone?.. I wonder also.

[Guest_1584]

Yeah scotty you betcha.

so connected so we sit home on laptops instead of living is my guess. l know there always would've been people alone but surely there's gotta be a lot more these days.

Thanks db , 00 , l'm still thinking , ouch.

[demonblaster]

Yes know what you mean thinking bout future Grandy darl, it feels empty. 3 yrs other day since my darling passed, he was my future.

Sorry your friend not well

Loven your goal for this year to do some off this list, trooper ☺😗

[demonblaster]

Hey Scotty ☺

You know I think the two main reasons are people & depression

Depression cocoons us, does its best work when we're alone, makes us withdraw & most MI seems to have depression attached

Loneliness is cruel, I'd like to see this too change. Another wrong in life.

Thx for coming in ☺

Random you could be right there could be more these days, families aren't as big these days, like before TV they use to be huge so more company maybe

Anyone can start up clubs or gatherings, I started table tennis here few yrs ago.

Think I mentioned this before there's card nights at some clubs

Gardening/ fishing clubs/meetings