Loneliness... What choices are there?

[demonblaster]

Loneliness is one of the cruelest underestimated places to be in life. Most of us need people.

This is all too common & wayyyy too many suffer this.

What's out there to help people?

Forums is a good place for many that are shy or depressed and not comfortable face on.

Excercising outside, amongst people, eye contact often connects a smile with people. Lifting

Here & assuming other places in Oz there's through community centres volunteers that visit, take shopping, talk, listen etc or phone calls weekly. (GP would know more)

Public transporting, around people, even if not engaged in convo, still amongst it

Interested hearing suggests

This shouldn't be

[demonblaster]

For Xmas some churches put on lunch, amongst people in same boat, lonely.

Same churches can be somewhere to meet people, they have outings id imagine too

[blondguy]

Loneliness....what choices are there?....Excellent question DB....

It may sound a bit 'unhelpful' but with anxiety/depression I have no choice except to be 'Gentle' with myself and 'accept' what I have been going through

Just for me 'fighting' loneliness/or a mental disorder is a waste of what mental horsepower I have left..

Acceptance does bring peace....most of the time

Paul

[demonblaster]

Thx Paul, nothing anyone says is unhelpful seriously all input we can learn from

Please talk more about how you get through matey, I may not concur but DO think about pretty much everything & open to change for the better 🙂 sometimes can take lonnnnng time to convince, ssshhhh don't tell anyone lol

Paul..."for me 'fighting' loneliness/or a mental disorder is a waste of what mental horsepower I have left"
Valid using up energy we don't have
At this stage Paul for me I don't think I can accept it. I accept MI but believe & am becoming stronger from learning how to control the emotions & understanding it helps to work out how to change. I feel if I don't try it'll continue taking me back to the deeper deeps & that won't change. Or am I misunderstanding what you're saying?
So maybe challenge it better word
Emotional control.
It is happening slowly ok, had it over life & surprisingly quick how much change is happening when applying myself to it not that there's not a long way to go but happies very so far

Biggly hugs

"Gentle' with myself" Yip beasties very hard on us and we go with it, agree budz 🙂

I realise now how important it is to like ourselves, it gives us a shield, confidence, which in turn could be easier for many to be around others to help with not being lonely.
Majority of us have heaps of goods, because we've been bombarded with negative down self worth at a constant it can be hard to find them but a good look inside is a good place to start.

[demonblaster]

Loneliness...choices

Talking with SIL today, What a great idea, some places have Cat Cafe's where you can take your own cat or not, they have some roaming. Great company, out of the house, amongst people, talk or not but around people.

Sometimes just being amongst people, the sound of them talking/laughing puts us amongst it.
Same public transporting as with a cafe, someone can still be ...word?...not discreet, arghh, not involved, but part of.

[Sad_Mushroom]

Hi DB,

Just found out that Centrelink here and some of the job search agencies have been putting up lists of places that have Christmas lunch and activities for people that will be alone over Christmas and also providing phone numbers for people who wish to volunteer to help. The lists are provided by the churches etc that are offering or asking for help.

Not sure if it is everywhere or everyone's cup of tea but for those who are interested!!!

SM

[demonblaster]

Good on you Sad thanks hun xx

Sad Mushroom said "Centrelink here and some of the job search agencies have been putting up lists of places that have Christmas lunch and activities for people that will be alone over Christmas and also providing phone numbers for people who wish to volunteer to help. The lists are provided by the churches etc that are offering or asking for help.

[demonblaster]

Being in shopping centres.
Can be there & anonymous

Was other day with brother we separated for a bit & although I chat to strangers regularly am aware it's difficult for many to but realized we're still amongst people which can take away loneliness feelings & being cooped up in house.

Often by allowing eye contact people do smile which is warming in itself. A connection but even if not you may be in a shop and someone accidentally brushes past and sorry , just a couple of words or hearing others talking can be company

[demonblaster]

Going to the pictures people can be anonymous but around others

[Sad_Mushroom]

Join online groups pertaining to hobbies etc that we are interested in.

I do genealogy, online. It is referred to as an 'armchair' hobby. There are message boards to ask for help or offer help. Talking to others is not as hard online especially when it is not about yourself.

SM

[demonblaster]

Thx Sad

If we like ourselves we wouldn't feel lonely as much cause our company would be good