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Loneliness... What choices are there?

demonblaster
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member
Loneliness is one of the cruelest underestimated places to be in life. Most of us need people.

This is all too common & wayyyy too many suffer this.

What's out there to help people?

Forums is a good place for many that are shy or depressed and not comfortable face on.

Excercising outside, amongst people, eye contact often connects a smile with people. Lifting

Here & assuming other places in Oz there's through community centres volunteers that visit, take shopping, talk, listen etc or phone calls weekly. (GP would know more)

Public transporting, around people, even if not engaged in convo, still amongst it

Interested hearing suggests

This shouldn't be
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oops kept Italics on

Glad to know someone understands what I was trying to say. Thanks for your reply. Table tennis party sounds like fun

Stop yelling at me lol

Lol yelled with my head on an angle 🤣

Ulysses said,

"I certainly didn’t grow up in an academic family so I’m not a super brain. Just mean I’m not stupid "

Two big brothers did very well at school both went Uni, I did terribly & v.disruptive & naughty, undiagnosed & wild, concentration always been biggly prob, left before school certificate 15 nearly 16yo (NZ) knew Id fail respect for parents they said ok but you have to work & helped me get jobs

Ditto not stupid I know now but was 26 when got distinction in nursing (1yr training then as EN) then I started to realise I wasnt stupid, often in BP the head going South exhaustion as we mostly know can come across dahh & of course many knock ya

Believing in myself more now, major towards confidence

Geez I’m not that bad and certainly don’t talk about my education. Lol I’m this town though you get used to trying to justify your worth as a person.either

white knight said:

Im lucky, I married my best friend 6 years ago

Happy for you Tony but sad the alternative be

"There is no easy fix. If I was in that solitary situation Id rather be on my own than join clubs."

Do you find your MH deteriorates when alone I know you're about 50% there kudos btw or did it give you space to work on it?

"Sit and chat with these older folk over a cuppa"

love chatting with older people, more settled less bs more experience, mostly more mellow

Nope, this knight rides solo.

Yeah fair enough

"Choosing the right company is the only answer."

Gotta feel comfy with people, if so they're not hurting us or stressing us

Thx for good convo Tony ☺

Tony WK

randomx said,

"But l usually get out and about around to all the other towns mainly , for that very reason, "

Liking you're finding other ways to be around peopl random. Tablets being naughty keeps caps locking. Have to exorcise poltergeist lol

"am lonely"

How do you go alone in headspace?

unno how to do quotes here but no matter.

Your teens and school sound a lot like mine DB , no one knew where l was or what l was doing , for years . left school at 15 1/2 but l' been all over the city doing what l wanted day and night for a longgg time before that.. Poor mum and dad didn't know wth to do with me, luckily huge family and no one even noticed me missing most of the time. Mum ha a habit of checking my bed had been slept in at some time through the night at least, in the mornings though. She use to look for my cereal bowl too because if l'd been home and gone again l'd always have cereal before l took off again.

Haha , how's the poltergeist goin.

My head spins alone , l have so much going on too, but if l'm with people l'm so use to the faking it till l make thing these days it spins then too.later.

Often afterwards,l realize my head just doesn't have room for other people right now . maybe if l share a bit about the crap goin on in my real world, it might help, but l've found that always comes back to bite me when l do so l try not too.

Besides , l got so many things goin on it'd pop their brain anyway. it's better tojust keep it to myself.

Bbl random

Wanna talk more