Loneliness as a High Schooler

[Laney-BB1234]

I feel so goddamn lonely. Like I have friends, but no one rlly ever asks me to hang out with them, and now that its school holidays I feel extra lonely. I have hung out with one friend only, and I feel so, so alone. I feel like I'm worthless, and that people hate me, even though I doubt thats true. Reading other peoples experiences with loneliness only makes me feel more sad. I cant even rlly talk to my family because there's certain parts of my identity I have to hide from them, therefore im always walking on eggshells around them. I just dont know what to do anymore. I see people my age on social media having fun with their friends and it makes me wonder why i cant be like that. Pls if anyone has some advice pls share.

[ss0]

Hi there,

I too am a fellow high schooler and I understand how difficult the holidays can be. It must be hard what you are going through. I want you to know you are not alone and the people you see on social media also feel the same way. They are only posting their good times. It is great to see you open up here as it is safe place to make connections. You could try to go out more, maybe join a class that you always wanted to! We have so much time in the holidays and we can make the most of it doing what we enjoy! I hope this helps. I am here for you.

[Laney-BB1234]

hey sso. thank you so much <3. you dont know how much it means to hear this. I've been trying to go out more, like you've suggested, and it's making me feel less alone. happy new year btw 🙂

[ss0]

I’m really glad it helped! Happy new year to you too!!

[Justwalkinghome]

I’m so sorry there’s parts of yourself you feel you need to hide 😔

im not sure if you’re in the 🌈 community, but if so, maybe Minus 18 will have some events in your area, or an online message board?

being a teenager is hard, and with social media putting it “in your face” it’s even harder.

it was hard when I was a teenager bc I was taller and bigger (body) than the other girls and I felt like I didn’t fit in.

One piece of advice is “to have a friend, be a friend.” 

so if you see something happening in your town which is your interests, go along, smile at people, offer to help out.

if someone says “would you like to…” say YES - even if it’s not your thing you might make a new friend there.

also see if there is a sport your could play, or a choir or game that you like… these things can help you meet new people.

im sorry it’s hard. 

[Laney-BB1234]

Hi,

yes i am in the lgbtq+ community. I tend not to talk about it too much, i think a part of me feels ashamed. I will check out minus 18 🙂 and I will follow your advice, and see if it helps me feel better. Thank you 😄