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Is it just me?

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I was recently diagnosed with depression, and I've found that I'm constantly trying to lean on others for support because I can't support myself at the moment. The people I do lean on, I feel like I'm a toxic drug to them and it's only a certain matter of time before people realise I'm a lost cause and not worth knowing? Does anyone else feel like this?

I find myself trying to tell people everything that is wrong with me telling them that it's better that they don't know me, but deep down I just want someone to realise I'm lying and I intact need them more than anything. I feel like I'm trying to punch myself and I don't understand why?

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Community Champion
Community Champion

Dear Alcoop~

Welcome here to the Forum. There are may who will understand completely what you are talking about.

Depression seems to not only make things seem hopeless but also affects how we think of ourselves, mainly that we are not worth it. I've very much felt that way.

The fact is that there are people one can talk with, who care enough to try to understand. Not always easy for them if they have never had depression, and therefor have no experience to draw on. However The big thing is if they care. I was lucky enough to have a partner that tried to make me feel loved and supported. She had no real idea of what was in my head, but by trial and error found what worked.

Do you think there is anyone in your life you could talk with? It realy does help a lot. I know you have been hoping someone will break though the barrier and ask how you are, so you can really say. Sometimes that does not happen and you have to the initiative.

It is not all one-sided. If you care about someone you naturally want to help and feel better if you do. Often the problem is in knowing what to do. There is a fear that saying the wrong thing can make matters worse. So it's a bit of an irony, the person with the depression has to let the other know what to do - which normally is just to listen and not offer impractical suggestions.

Not being able to soldier on alone is exactly what one would expect. Illness takes support, both the care of family and friends, and by doctors. You said you have been diagnosed, does that mean you are currently under treatment? I hope so.

It does get better, and you are welcome here anytime


Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hello alcoop

Good on you for posting....its takes courage

Croix has offered valuable support above which is great

It is not just you at all Alcoop....depression is a illness that will make you feel exactly how you have posted.

You are not on your own at all. I understand you as this is my 22nd years with depression. I take a low dose antidepressant and combined with counseling

The Good News! Depression does decrease with the help of even your GP as they have a better understanding of depression than when I started getting the symptoms. I still see my GP every month for a fine tune which is a huge help with my recovery

May I ask you if you have a GP or counselor that can help you heal?

You are not alone Alcoop. There are many gentle people on the forums that can be here for you too.

The forums are also judgement free. No one will judge you .....only support you the best way we know how 🙂

My kind thoughts and please stick around the forums if you can