JacintaMarie,
Thank you for reaching out, and welcome back to the forums.
I can definitely understand your frustration, I've been there a few times. While it is lovely that this person has taken it upon themselves to try and help out, you did mention to them that you were fine with doing the task yourself, and you're feeling annoyed because they didn't listen to your request. I can see that there's a conflict between how you're feeling and how you think you should be feeling, but your feelings are valid.
I think the way you're going about dissecting your feelings is good. You're allowing yourself to sit with how you're feeling, and trying to understand why you feel this way. You've recognised that you're more upset by the principle of not being heard or listened to than the fact that this person has completed your task instead of you.
The best you can do, I suppose, is thank the person but emphasise the fact that you'd prefer to do it yourself next time. Or you could even address with them that you felt unheard, despite the fact that you appreciate their actions. Either way, I think the way you're handling it is healthy.
Great to hear from you. Please feel free to continue chatting with us if you'd like, we're here to listen if you've got more you want to say or work through.
Take care, SB
