I don’t want my partner to join the navy
Hi c1698 and welcome to Beyond Blue forums
Thank you for sharing your story. I understand exactly how you are feeling at the moment. I’m not a health professional, but am able to share some of my own experiences which may help.
Decision making is often anxiety provoking for me. I think this is because I ‘need to be in control’, ‘want to make the right decision’. I’ve learnt over time this is not at all helpful to a good life.
I have anxiety, depression and PTSD. Much of my anxiety stems from triggers, though in recalling my life, I remember the anxiety when in one job I spent, every day having to make decisions - all day long. Wow, it was the most stressful job I’ve ever had. Not the hardest job, but the most stressful.
Some things to think about while trying to work out what to do:
- what’s the worst that could happen if you made the wrong decision? E.g. you continued your relationship with your partner who joins the Navy. Your thoughts about what will happen may become a self fulfilling prophecy. Why not look at his joining as an opportunity for both of you? To see different places, meet new people, opening up career opportunities for yourself?
- break off the relationship? I’d be left wondering if things could have been okay. I’d be annoyed with myself that I let the opportunity for a great life go because I was fearful of the unknown.
Not sure how much this helps c1698. Just trying to give you some other ways of looking at it.