Hi Abbie121,
I am really sorry to hear that you are struggling with this, it is a difficult situation to be in and can feel so hard to navigate and move on from.
Firstly, I think it is important that you have been able to acknowledge that the friendship cannot go any further. It is okay to let yourself feel upset and disappointed by this. Often suppressing or denying feelings and thoughts can just make them resurface and fester even more intensely. In saying that, while you should let yourself feel, try not to ruminate or wallow as this can spiral pretty quickly. I know that is much easier said than done, but try to think of what you might be able to put in place to help yourself feel a bit better - it doesn't have to be anything big, spending time with friends or loved ones, avoid self-isolating, doing something you enjoy, planning something that you can look forward to, etc. Try to find a few things to shift your mind and energy towards if you can. Is there anything that has helped you in the past when you've been upset or when things have felt really difficult?
While it may feel really intense right now, know that the feelings are likely to subside with time. I know it is hard to see right now, but it won't always hurt this much,
There is no easy fix to detaching from them, especially if you do want to maintain the friendship, but I would suggest avoiding looking through their social media.
Writing can also help to get out what you are feeling and to externalise some of the thoughts and emotions. It may sound a bit odd, but it can be a really helpful exercise.
I am sorry if this wasn't the answer you were looking for. In any case, be kind to yourself, and take care. Please don't hesitate to reach out whenever you need, we're here to listen.
