He's stringing me on after breaking up bc of my traditional family
Thank you for sharing me with me. It must have been extremely difficult for the both of you but you've made it sound so simple. I just wish that if he wanted to break up with me he'd do so and stop contacting me. When he does contact me it's things like 'I miss you,' 'wish you were here' type.
Its almost like he knows what he needs to do but can't do it properly? At the same time it's giving me false hope all the texts. His words mean so much to me. I don't think he realises
I also agree with the different perspectives given by Pipsy and Elizabeth.it is important to consider how you would want this to be and what is more important to you. I also agree with you when you say that ' he has lost interest in you' and maybe gets a good excuse. Why I say this is because I felt the same way 10 years ago.
The only other thing I can think of is talking to your parents about it and telling them how you feel. Just making them see if possible your perspective of things.also if this is getting too much for you and you are sure in your heart that You want to stop contact with him, you may have to take harsh steps such as help from a friend.
I totally understand when you say everything is perfect in your relationship, but if this is what is causing a problem, then it isn't that perfect is it? When I was going out with my boyfriend that I mentioned to you, well the thing was I told him many times,my mum will talk to his parents and we will find that equal point where both families will be happy. But he said no I don't have guts, I can't do this, and then a couple of years after our break up ,he married a girl of different caste (the reason he couldn't marry me) and you can imagine how much that hurt me.
what I'm trying to say is that just like everyone has said above, it would be good is your relationship ends in a friendly note if it has to end and also it is your life and not your parents or anyone else. Have a good think about it and see what you come about it. Just an idea, some times when I get stuck in a decision, I brainstorm and I circle ideas that are more important to me. I'm sure you will come up with the right decision.
all the best dear mermaid.
i hope I didn't say anything to hurt you.
Hi Mermaid. I think if it was me in your shoes, I'd be contacting him and arranging to meet and discuss everything. Find out exactly what he wants, discuss the pros and cons of continuing (if that's what you both want). If, after talking to him, you both decide that's IT, then make that decision and end it. Tell him he's confusing you by texting one thing, then contradicting it by saying another. It's not fair to either of you to have this sort of thing happening. If he wants the relationship as you do, you're both going to have to be very sure because of your parents feelings re: him. Maybe if you do decide to 'give it another go', you could relocate to another church (same denomination) where you're not known. That way you could 'keep' your faith without fear of recrimination by your family. As I said earlier, it's your life, you have to decide how you want to live it. I realize your family loves you, but sometimes families can be very suffocating with their love. If you decide to walk away from the church, that too is your call.