grief is mind bending
Deepest sympathy for the death of your Mum. Sorry for the grief and confusion you are feeling.
I'm not sure how to help and advise you, just wanted to let you know that someone here cares.
Maybe you could call the Beyondblue helpline and they may be able to help you with some of what you are dealing with. Call 1300 22 4636.
I'm not sure if your Dr may be able to offer you help and suggestions regarding your daughter. There may be some care packages or something you can receive. I don't really know. There must be some help yo can tap into.
The loss of a loved one can be very hard to deal with. Grief has different stages. I hope someone is able to help you sort out some of your troubles!