Hello Morning sunshine,
I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling so devastated by this. Prenups can be a really tricky thing to talk about, and can come as a shock if you've not really considered it necessary.
It's good that you came around to the idea, but still wanted to make sure you both are protected. At the end of the day, if one is in place, it's only fair that the agreement protects you both equally.
From what you mention, there are a few reasons from his past which could explain how fixed he is on his position. None of which mean he's right, but perhaps which give some insight into his reasoning which it sounds like he's not really explained clearly to you. Still, it is quite common that being hurt in the past can make people's behaviour seem very confusing and outright contradictory - he can be the most thoughtful and caring in every way, but if it comes to the question of money and shared finances, he could seem like a completely different person.
I think you've hit the nail on the head in terms of potentially looking to get a better understanding of where he's coming from. That can often help get past people's anxieties, and I hope he is willing to talk more. Let us know how you go, when you feel up to it.
James
