dear Bart, thanks for opening up to us as it would have been very difficult whether or not you feel as though you are
able to do so, and yes what you have said seems to be a familiar post, never the less each one deserves their
own attention.
My personal opinion doesn't seem to change from person to person if someone you are married to or been in a long term
relationship if someone has been having an affair, and in your situation if she went back to the person she was cheating with after
you split up, then there would be no way I would let her back into the marriage, simply because you would never know
where she was, no matter what she said to you, and remember you need to see a councillor for your anxiety attacks
because of her.
I caught my wife ( ex ) ringing from a public phone box three times so from there on I never trusted her, so I rang
her at work and continually checked up where she was, and at this stage I was suffering from depression.
She had moved into another bedroom and barely spoke with me, so what I should have done was end the marriage, but
being depressed I couldn't until finally she divorced me.
I still love her even though we no longer live together and that was about 13 years or so ago, so that's why I am
saying that my marriage should have never continued.
You too can still love her, but the constant thought everyday of 'where is she' and do 'I believe what she is saying'
and 'why does she need to go there' will be an everyday nightmare for you, sure you love her but can I ask you a
question, if and when you have an argument, disagreement and she storms off where is she going to go. Geoff.
