Should I stay or should I go or am I being mentally abused

[Brauche_Hilfe]

Hello,
my partner & I of 5 yrs are having relationship issues
our relationship was perfect we would text constantly never miss a call
My partner & I do not fight

her 1st marriage she was physically abuse
Her 2nd marriage mentally abused and still is during our relationship not only by her ex but also by her kids
I have never been accepted by her kids
I have never gotten involved with her affairs. Was always told to remain neutral
Aft about 1yr in her ex and kids started applying enormous abusive pressure on her
the law has done nothing VRO's are not worth the paper written on
i have watched her be mentally abused to the point that in February this year she all but left me!!!

she moved back to her ex's place where he doesn't actually live but keeps the kids there and dissappears which forces her to go back to them
here's the kicker her kids are 17 21 & 24 yet he won't let anyone leave
so since feb she had basically moved back to protect her kids
then went to a woman's retreat in Singapore for six weeks came back one of her kids did self harm and she ended up sitting by a hospital bed for 4 weeks
she then moved to another place by herself and has not given me the address and still won't
in the mean time
I have seen her four times since Feb totalling about 6 hours her communication with me has been reduced to text messages
Calls go unanswered and will only call when suites
my SMS are sometimes answered
some days she tells me we are all good and will be together and she will see me
but she doesn't show

I don't know if I am in a relationship anymore
i have been patient long suffering and have supported her



5 days ago she just took of to the woman's retreat again didn't say a word just gone
she called twice sent a few SMS more than what I have had in the past month
she sounded happy says she loved me and was going to come back and sort things out
She arrived back tonight
all I have received is one message
saying "I am home"
she is meant to come to see me today but im worried she won't show

I love her with all my heart
I am scared to lose her because I know who she really is and this isn't her

but what ever action I take I cannot seem to find a way in

but I also feel Im being punished because of others

I feel lost in life
alone in my relationship
i am anxious
i keep exercising everyday
but I have with withdrawn myself from everyone else

this my friends is only partial

but enough room for full story

[Janey123]

So glad that you are feeling more hopeful about your situation and it is great that you are seeking help. It isn't selfish to put your needs first, you need to take care of you if you want to be a support to others.

Janey