Unfortunately, psychopaths don't change their stripes... (and he could well have been one, or just an abuser, and they don't change their stripes either. What do you think he's going to be doing to the new woman? It might take her a while to realise and it might take him a while to get her 'groomed' but I'd put money on the fact that it will happen. As I said psychopaths don't change their stripes, and I speak with both professional and personal experience of the situation.
Yes, he found a new vic as I think of it (victim, female to abuse), of course he could. But you seriously know you don't want him, logically, rationally... imagine being 64 or 74 and still putting up with that?
There are always latent emotions that come out after a relationship breaks up, ones that sometimes don't seem to make any sense yet they are definitely there and you definitely feel them. Mindfulness is great for this (you can google it), you can watch, observe and study these thoughts without internalising them (adopting them into your life schema). You can be amused, irritated, befuddled by these thoughts, you can critique and rationalise them. Start by relaxing, sensing your breathing and feeling connected with the earth you walk on. I know that sounds kind of flaky to some people, but give it an honest go anyway, it just might help you.
Feel free to write back any time,
Lazykh
