Introduction - Hello Everyone

[Guest_498]

Hi all,

I'm new to this forum. I'd like to introduce myself. I'm 40 years of age, female. My interests include music (any genre), reading a great novel, watching comedy, Restuaranting, and learning new things. I suffer from depression and anxiety. Depression feels very lonely for me. I'd like to reach out for some support. Thank you.

[ecomama]

Bluberry said:Ems, how did the catch up with prodigal son go? I hope youve had a great afternoon with him. Im proud of him, too. He loves his gf, and being loyal & keeping his promise. He loves her, Ems. Xx

He does love her very much and they have planned to get married etc.

He was VERY happy with the way things are working out down there atm.
This made the mama in me relax ALOT. PHEW!

I know Y is happy for him too but I felt the same as her... a wave of depression wondering if he'll ever move back as he said he would - Y fell asleep while he was here! I think she knows the signals and needed to 'black out' from it all.

I felt the need to too but stayed awake to keep him company.

He LOVED seeing all the pets and they LOVED being near him, like against him the WHOLE time lol!

As it turned out he DID need to pick up something - paperwork from his ex-bosses up here for gf and himself. But he dared not tell me lol... but he can't really help needing things.

We just have to close off our lives with expectations from him and move into a new phase altogether... ALL of us.

His multiple siblings got home and stayed downstairs. They're pretty dirty on him with stuff of theirs they found in his room. I don't think he spoke with them the whole time.

He's the one that DIDN'T want to be a multiple.

I think he's LOVING no one mixing up his name etc (they're all identical).

He finally has his OWN identity but it's a kick in the guts his brothers say, they love being multiples. It makes them sad, his attitude, like really sad.

We drive the concept of "respect" home every day here lol... we need to respect his decisions.
As we want our decisions for ourselves to be respected also.

He might come home for Uni... I'm thinking not as time goes on.

Gf is digging her heels in over not speaking to me. She was very misguided in her attitude towards me, very immature like her family all are.
But if she digs her heels in then that's one sure way to manipulate him.

And I'll still respect his decision to stand by her.

It's what a good partner SHOULD do.

Love EM

[monkey_magic]

I am doing more searching.

Don't want to be on the radar of weird wacky wonderful scary ppl lol.

It's so funny.

I just want piece around me but everytime I move somewhere I have problems.

Yep, done the flatmate thing many many times....

And unsuccessfully many many times.

[Guest_1643]

Def don't believe anything people "say" when u meet them to move in - look at wht they do

Like if they say "Oh i'm very organised and clean all the time..."

And then the place is messy....

I think u can see a lot from how someone keeps a home. I was lied to once in my early house sharing days and thought i was sharing with miss organised and responsible

well little miss never paid rent and caused me a tonne of headache. One big mistake i made there - for sure.

[Guest_498]

Sleepy & Monkey,
Yah its good to have a perfect stranger you can get along with. Two strangers from different worlds living together doesn't always work. I honestly think the reason being is that we've got mutual respect for one another. I mean despite the flirting etc .. We're both mindful of our living situation. We haven't crossed any boundaries and we do talk. He doesn't do anything unless I tell him to. Hes respectful like that. And, so am I.
Ultimately, you treat ppl how you want to be treated, flatmate or not. I never lose sight of this. Its my motto. I always see ppl as ppl, nothing less, nothing more. And ppl have their moments, as I do. I just go with the flow of things here with him. If he wants to retreat after work to relax, I do my own thing. If he wants to chat, ill chat. Im pretty easy going...and hes the same.
I've had an awful experience once before with 2 other flatmates who really put me off sharing with anyone!! This was before my old flatmate came in... It was horrid, I didn't even want to come home!!! and I swore Id NEVER live with another stranger. But having good ones do make your life much, mucheasier.

[Guest_498]

Sleepy, youre right in saying don't believe ppl when they say this, when they say that. They could turn out the opposite of what they're saying. Ive had this once before...in the end I was like, OMG, nowhere near the description!!
I say very little about myself. I don't even have a profile pic up. I would only ever introduce what I need to. The rest is dependent upon living with me or asking me questions. Now when I seek for a flatmate, I look for the same. One that says very little about that person. It has worked for me twice now. I'm liking this method - no expectations and ask questions upon meeting them. That vibe that Ems was talking about.

[Guest_498]

Happy to hear that Son is happy and things are working out for him. Yes, it would put your mind at ease. I know if he was my son, ill be more relaxed, thats for sure.
Alexa and her new guy friend. What are your thoughts so far?

[monkey_magic]

Sleepy, I know right. People saving face but behind them is a mess.

Glad U wiped your hands of that little miss.

I'm looking at other granny flats.

It's exciting but a bit of a headache.

[Guest_498]

Monkey, what is a granny flat?

[monkey_magic]

Blubes I too had the most horrid experience in shared houses.

Once I took off and slept in my car to gather strength to go back in the place.

Never ever ever again.

I like how you are compassionate about ppl having their moments.

[ecomama]

Hi Blubes

A granny flat is like a cabin in the back yard or called a studio flat. Monkey's not sharing HER space but will have to see the ppl in the big house.

Yes son says he's good and he looked pretty happy, it was good for me to see him happy ofcourse.

Alexa is not really into this new person in a romantic sense. he seems to be really into her bec all the friends who've known him for over 20y since they were all little, say he's AWESOME. Lol.
So she's just going out to the beach tomorrow afternoon and spending time with him.
He earns a ton of money so that's ONE worry off her list.
Plus he has lots of interests, we spoke about yesterday.
It's not really up to me at this point, or ANY point for that matter lol... from the sounds of things, he's an angel.
His mum is Asian so Alexa said there'd be GREAT food at his house! lol.
He came home to live during the shut downs and work from home.

She's met him a few times over the years but she was always with Shep.

Have a great day lovely girls. I'm off to work.

Love EM