I feel so detached

[frost1]

Hi guys, I’m new to this forum.

I kind of just need someone to talk to. Everyone here seems nice so I figured I’d make this post.

I always feel alone and unable to connect with people. Since high school I’ve been having problems with social interactions. I talk fine with my family and very close friends, but with others my mind usually goes blank and I lose track of the conversation. Other times I know what I want to say and I keep repeating it in my head but it just doesn’t come out.

I moved to a new place five months ago and it got worse because I don’t get to talk much with my family and close friends anymore. I’ve had online friendships but I failed to maintain them.

I feel so detached from everyone. People are generally nice to me but I feel like all I ever do is disappointing them. I used to be fun and social when I was younger, how did I turn into this?

I have so much I want to share and talk about. I crave to connect with people. But I don’t know how to make a change..

[Sophie_M]

Hi frostë,

Welcome to our friendly online community, we are so glad you decided to join us here. We know it can be hard to write the first post, so thank you for having the courage. We're sorry to hear that you're feeling detached from everyone. It sounds like you have a lot of offer people. We're sure that a lot of our community members will relate to these feelings and hopefully some of them will be able to offer you words of advice.

If you are interested, we would also recommend getting in touch with an organisation called Headspace. Headspace is an organisation specifically for young people aged 12-25 and they offer a wide range of services including group programs which are a great opportunity to meet people. They also have a group chat on their webpage.
 
. Headspace - https://headspace.org.au/

Please feel free to reach out here on your thread and keep us updated on what you're feeling and experiencing whenever you feel up to it.
 

[Tay100]

Hi frostë

It's great to have you on the forums, welcome. I just want to say that what you feel is valid, and you aren't alone in feeling like this.

Not being able to relate to others face to face can be frustrating- especially if you've moved away from the family/friends you can relate more too. Maybe you can organise a regular phone call/Facetime or something with them? Having regular check-ins might make all the difference.

In terms of relating to others, maybe asking for support and reassurance from them might help you realise you aren't disappointing anyone- we are allowed to change and go through periods of being 'flat' or 'detached'. This might help you find some confidence and realise you don't need to change who you are.

In terms of online friendships, which you say you have struggled with, a good thing to ty might be the BB Social Zone, seen here: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/bb-social-zone . I know you say you struggle to maintain friendships, but here, there is no pressure to respond- you can just read along if you like. It is a caring, non-judgemental place. I hope to see you there, or we can get to know each other on this thread, too!

Sending kindness and friendship,

Tay100