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Complex PTSD - What is it and how do we cope?

Just Sara
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

'Complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD; also known as complex trauma disorder) is a psychological disorder thought to occur as a result of repetitive, prolonged trauma involving sustained abuse or abandonment by a caregiver or other interpersonal relationships with an uneven power dynamic.' Wikipedia description..

I think this pretty much sums it up yeah?

I wish I could underline; '..relationships with an uneven power dynamic'. In my own case, C-PTSD was triggered by bullying in my workplace from 2008 until 2014. I developed symptoms such as Anxiety/Panic that grew in severity until a tragic breakdown in 2014. I was forced to medically retire.

Although my history of multiple trauma's and childhood abuse caused specific responses in me from an early age, I thought I was normal and everyone was the same. In fact, a lot of people in my inner circle were.

Decades later, I find out those friends/family members/acquaintances had gone thru their own traumatic situations. So why wouldn't I feel normal around them?

Today, as opposed to the 70's/80's (my adolescence/young adulthood) where abuse wasn't discussed, people have resources to out their pain and confusion in spaces like BB forum or with psychologists, social workers, medico's, psychiatrists and even friends/family.

Treatment has become the 'norm' instead of going it alone which is what many of us here had to do until society caught up with this 'pandemic' (IMO) of psychological disorders.

So, why create a thread dedicated to C-PTSD? Well, stigma and misconception around it's still rife in our society, and people suffering with this horrible disorder and not realising it is a constant.

Your views are absolutely welcome! We really do need to talk about it as consequences of C-PTSD and the benefits of therapy are worthy and an important part of recovery.

Newcomers and current members alike are encouraged to post; old, young, male or female.

Let's pick each other's brain and see where it leads...

Kind thoughts;

Sez

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wow Sez your last post is rather a different perspective now isnt it! i like the way youve written it and i think many will understand it rather well.

do you remember the name of that book at all?

Thanks sweetie;

If you're referring to the one about men at war, it's a very large book full of pictures and historical info about the first world war. It screamed at me as I was passing one day in a book store. Although I wasn't really interested in that era, I bought it ($70!) and took it home.

I don't think I've mentioned any other book, so remind me if I'm off the mark ok. I'm so glad you've gotten something out of these posts; it's important to me.

Take care;

Sez xo

yep the one about the war, what do you think drew your attention to it? an inkling maybe?

i always get things out of your posts, including the saying no one- but for these im more the silent readers just following and learning as i read them

xoxox ❤️

Ggrand
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hello Sez,

Thank you for your kind reply...I am always reading along..not posting much..listening mostly until i become unsure and need some advise and help..

Your reply post is fairly accurate about my feelings and thoughts...

Sometimes I do think about being back where I was, being totally dependent on someone, harder in every way, but easier in everyday decisions..

Sink or swim....I suppose I'll find out soon enough.. I've been trying to float long enough, time to throw away that floatie.. and see which way I go...

kind thoughts,

Karen....Grandy..

Henny_Pen
Community Member

Hi, Sez and everyone 🙂

I'm new to the forums and saw this complex trauma post and figured this is just as good as any place to jump in!

Today I saw a CSA counsellor for the first time. Previous to this I thought I was doing a great job blocking out and generally living my private torture.

Im a 4th year Social Work student and have learnt so much about complex trauma and C-PTSD, that I know I've actually been doing a terrible job of blocking out my childhood and the subsequent life-long harmful coping strategies I've acquired and I now know I cannot continue without therapy. It feels good to have taken a small step and I'm feeling maybe 20% less freaked out tonight than I thought I would.. That's a plus!

Looking forward to being a part of the community 🙂

Cheers, Jen

Hi Sez (and all),

I’m sorry it has taken a little while to reply but I’m here now...

Thank you very much for the insightful and caring reply. I hadn’t expected it because I just added the part about my parents as an aside so it was very kind of you to give it so much thought.

Sorry, I feel as though maybe I’m taking this thread off-track because I’m not sure if my little aside has much to do with the heart of this thread...please let me know if I am as I feel like I might be....

In any case, I hear what you’re saying about how whether we like it or not, we often carry parts of our parents in us. All I know is I don’t want to be like my mum...

I always felt torn between empathising with her and secretly resentful that she never stood up to my dad. I wanted my mum to be “strong” and to stand on her own to 2 feet...she never showed me this so I had to figure out how to do this, for better or for worse. Alone.

Anyway, I feel like I’m going off-topic plus talking about my parents hurt so I don’t think I want to say too much more about them right now. Sorry...

Thanks for letting me talk...

You’re a beautiful person and it looks like lots of people are benefiting as you have a newcomer to this thread (welcome Henny Pen).

Love, H x H

Pepper xoxo

Hi and welcome to the forum community Jen;

What a great first post! My goodness, how many times have I seen community welfare students with MH issues?! Including me? Ah...heaps!

We can be the most advanced student with comprehensive knowledge up the waarzoo, but still suffer like little children. Unfortunately, Uni does a great job preparing us for client service, corporate or leadership roles, but fails at exploring 'lived experience'.

It's lovely to have you on board, and like most here, have a wealth of wisdom to part with if you're up for it. I also hope we can support you on your journey thru recovery as it's our mantra to receive support, we give support.

As an aside, your experiences would most likely be a welcome change for marking assessors reading your papers. They're not stat's of course, but can't be disputed which is nice as marking goes. In fact they'll reinforce those stat's.

C-ptsd's all about memory; large as life and 'there' in the background till death do us part. It's not blocking them that works, it's learning to cope and manage causative effects and responses that heals. Most of all though, it's learning from the past to serve us in the present. As with all community services workers, rule of thumb - know your client!

In your case, it's you...

Self knowledge is our biggest asset; acceptance, forgiveness, patience, trial and error, observation, courage and determination. There's so much more, but these tend to challenge the most.

I'm really going to enjoy getting to know you better; you've started out wonderfully. 🙂

Waiting on your next post with bated breath. I'll do my best to encourage and support you as a deserving and vital member.

Kind thoughts;

Sez

Hi wonderful Pepper;

You're not off topic at all! Learning from role models in childhood, is across the board a normal effect of growing up.

When we begin to form individuality; our separateness, we either go with the flow or challenge those norms. (or both) Confronting trauma as a witness can be just as horrible as going thru it ourselves, especially where little minds are concerned.

Have you ever spoken to your mum about it? She'll have her rationale from that time, and as an adult now, you may be able to comprehend her reasons far better than when a child. This has definitely worked for me.

We form our beliefs dependent on many circumstances, and when they aren't there anymore, we still carry our beliefs invisibly until our adult mind kicks in, as you and I have spoken about on another thread.

For this to occur, identifying what those beliefs are is really hard work. As you've seen from me, I react emotionally first, then after dialog/self analysis/therapy, I discover the true cause behind my overblown responses.

You've had to teach yourself adult concepts and practises; not unlike most of us I dare say. It doesn't mean they're wrong or right, it just means a little research and dialog with others might create better ways of thinking, behaving and prioritising for instance.

Personal growth never stops...

Not wanting to be like mum was my lot in life as a young adult. But, those beliefs caused me to travel in her shoes until I realised this is what I'd been doing. As cranky and disillusioned as I was, I picked myself up and learned from it. No point berating myself over it.

Yours was a great contribution to this thread Pepper. Have faith; your beautiful mind is always on the ball. 🙂

Love Sez xo

Hi beautiful Sez (and all),

A heartfelt thank you for the caring, encouraging and insightful post. I know you have your struggles and you’re busy with various posts so it means a lot that you took the time to reply so kindly and thoughtfully ❤️

Sorry, I don’t know what to say...I feel like a deer caught in the headlights so I’m a little speechless right now. My parents are a bit of a sore spot for me to talk about. Sorry...

Thank you once again. It really does mean a lot. I really appreciated your post. You’re helping a lot of people on this thread and elsewhere. What a caring post you wrote to Jen 🙂

Love always, H x H

Pepper xoxo

WhiteNile
Community Member

I've recently, in the last few weeks, come to the realisation that I have CPTSD. I've been in therapy since my early teens and now in my 30's.

I read a book, Complex PTSD surviving to thriving and it all just made sense! Lightbulb .. The focus is on childhood trauma however it talks about symptoms, concepts and management that everyone could benefit from.

I'm know this label fits however I'm still struggling with what this means and what it means I need to do now.

My life is full of emotional flashbacks, the inner critic and I have a lack of identity.

Does anyone else have CPTSD as a result of childhood emotional neglect?