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Complex PTSD - What is it and how do we cope?

Just Sara
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

'Complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD; also known as complex trauma disorder) is a psychological disorder thought to occur as a result of repetitive, prolonged trauma involving sustained abuse or abandonment by a caregiver or other interpersonal relationships with an uneven power dynamic.' Wikipedia description..

I think this pretty much sums it up yeah?

I wish I could underline; '..relationships with an uneven power dynamic'. In my own case, C-PTSD was triggered by bullying in my workplace from 2008 until 2014. I developed symptoms such as Anxiety/Panic that grew in severity until a tragic breakdown in 2014. I was forced to medically retire.

Although my history of multiple trauma's and childhood abuse caused specific responses in me from an early age, I thought I was normal and everyone was the same. In fact, a lot of people in my inner circle were.

Decades later, I find out those friends/family members/acquaintances had gone thru their own traumatic situations. So why wouldn't I feel normal around them?

Today, as opposed to the 70's/80's (my adolescence/young adulthood) where abuse wasn't discussed, people have resources to out their pain and confusion in spaces like BB forum or with psychologists, social workers, medico's, psychiatrists and even friends/family.

Treatment has become the 'norm' instead of going it alone which is what many of us here had to do until society caught up with this 'pandemic' (IMO) of psychological disorders.

So, why create a thread dedicated to C-PTSD? Well, stigma and misconception around it's still rife in our society, and people suffering with this horrible disorder and not realising it is a constant.

Your views are absolutely welcome! We really do need to talk about it as consequences of C-PTSD and the benefits of therapy are worthy and an important part of recovery.

Newcomers and current members alike are encouraged to post; old, young, male or female.

Let's pick each other's brain and see where it leads...

Kind thoughts;

Sez

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Flighty
Community Member

Hi everyone, diagnosed on Thursday with childhood trauma and CPTSD. Divorced parents, emotionally neglectful unavailable mother and father. Physically, verbally abusive stepfather. Parentified at an early age to look after my younger sister. Sexual abuse from my older brother and an uncle. Emotional crutch for my mother.

A relief to know that my ongoing episodes of what I call emotional breakdowns, without really having any idea as to why I would feel so traumatised, finally makes sense. Along with that though is having to deal with flashbacks and fragmented memories, flooding and freezing. 1 of my triggers is my husband who I love dearly but he has Aspergers and he finds it extremely difficult to deal with my emotions on a daily basis let alone when I have breakdowns. Unfortunately he is also my lifeline so to speak. I have a long road ahead but knowing what I have makes it easier to understand why I feel or don't feel as I do.

Taking it 1 one moment at a time xx

Hi, just tagging for the time being.

cheers

Hello Flighty and welcome

im sorry you went through all of that! im glad that diagnosis has helped you but just remember it doesnt define who you are.

Do you have professional supports to help you manage your emotions, flashbacks, and the likes?

hello Anomalous and welcome, feel free to share whats on your mind too.

BlueVixen
Community Member
Hi All; I've just found this forum - I'm not up to "explaining" right now. Suffice it to say THANKYOU.. I've read from the start of this thread and I'm relieved what I'm feeling/dealing with is "normal" cptsd stuff! I'm rarely online but will endeavour to check back. I don't feel alone anymore!

Music to my ears BlueVixen!!

Pop in anytime for a chat or to ask a question. Startingnew and I will endeavour to be there for you when you need us.

Start your own thread if you like. It's all good...

Welcome to our caring community!

Kind thoughts;

Sez

Hello BlueVixen

that is wonderful to hear, please pop in when you feel up to it or as the lovely Sez has suggested start your own thread and we can support you there as well.

StaticRose51
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member
Hi Lovlies I am seeing a profesional supporter and am wondering how you deal with triggers in terms of cultural ptsd? Is it the same as complex ptsd how does one manage this with meds and cbt. Obviously some talking therapy helps but i am scared to start my journey.... any tips or advice? I have dealt with two relatives who approached me to be innapropriately available for them while i was at work..

He is available by e-mail and I was wondering if I reveal issues that I previously didn't mention does this affect me negatively? I'm trying to heal the only way i know how by being honest.

Hello Static Rose,

im not familiar with cultural ptsd so im not much help there im afraid. your welcome to start a thread on that topic to if you like, others may have some more ideas.

Coping with triggers can be really hard- have you found anything helpful at all in helping you to cope?

Some of the things that help me are breathing exercises, journalling, fitness, talking to a helpline, and distractions such as craft, focussing on housework, baking or baking. For long term i find medications, the right support and lots of coping and self care activities are very helpful and neccessary (though its up to you if youd like medications)

What is scaring you the most about starting your journey?

Do you have any ideas on complex ptsd then talking through it and things to do to stay focused? I have tried nlp and craft ideas. How is the best way to explain to someone the fear you feel and what clams you up?