What happened doesn't have to define me

[Mia001]

Hi everyone!

I'm new here. Not really sure what to do. Where do I start? Any suggestions?

Mia

[Mia001]

Hi,

The party went well. My aunt didn't say anything negative about the test, she was really nice actually.

I'm not feeling so well today as I seem to be getting a cold. I'm thinking about cancelling my shift tomorrow but I'm not sure. I have an appointment with my counsellor though, so if I miss work I'd have to cancel my session too, otherwise I will get in trouble. I'll probably just go to work anyway.

What have you been doing over the weekend? Anything interesting?

Mia

[White_Rose]

Hello Mia

Why would you need to cancel your counsellor appointment if you take a sick day from work? Sometimes our bodies are telling us we need to slow down and take a day off. Where I worked it was called a mental health day. I'm not advocating taking sickies because you cannot be bothered to go to work, just a realisation that sometimes you are pushing yourself too hard. Seeing your counsellor may give you the lift you need.

Good about the party and the aunt. Sometimes people surprise us when we are expecting hard comments and receive something nice instead.

On Sunday I went to my granddaughter's ninth birthday party. On Saturday the weather was so hot but completely changed on Sunday. I was glad I took a jacket as the party was in a local park. The children enjoyed themselves playing on the rope climbing frame and eating crisps. Birthday girl had a cake in the shape of 9, made by her mom. Covered in icing and lollies but I knew I had to do my duty and eat it. 😊 I love cake.

I have been enjoying my garden progress. I am making large beds with paths. It's slow but then I can enjoy the various plants getting settled in and growing well. Rain over the weekend was good.

I hope you feel better soon.

Mary

[Mia001]

Hi Mary,

There is an unspoken rule at work that if you have a sick day you stay at home. (Or at least out of sight, and don't post pics of you at a party on Facebook!!) Also I wouldn't be able to tell my brother where I was going, so he'd tell them that I took a sick day and wasn't really sick because I spent the day in town. Its ok, I'm not too sick that I can't work. It's only 4 hrs, and I'm not rostered again until Saturday so I've got time to rest. I just can't afford to skip a session right now. I feel like I'm just hanging on, and it won't take much for me to lose my balance.

The birthday party sounds like it was fun. Any excuse to eat cake, hey? 😊

I'm glad to hear that you had some rain too. Hopefully it's just what you needed to settle in the plants.

Hugs, (as long as you don't mind)

Mia

[Guest_128]

Mia Mia Mia,

I LOVE YOUR HEADING THING,

EVERYDAY I READ IT SO MANY TIMES

Sorry sorry I kept meaning to tell you.

It shows strength,acceptance,courage,change, all the good stuff.

Dory

[White_Rose]

Hello Mia

Yes I wondered about the work ethic. But if you can work your shift it's probably better to do so.

Keep all your counsellor appointments, especially at this time. Good to persevere.

Cake was good. Rain was good and the lower temperature is also good.

Mary

[Mia001]

Hi Dory,

Wow... thank you! You made my day. I'm glad you like it.

It's something a friend told me, and it means a lot to me. She is an amazing person and I'm glad I told her what happened. One day I will have to tell her, but I'm not really good with thankyou's.

I find myself thinking about it every time I see it too. You summed it up well... strength, acceptance, courage, change. To me it also means hope. Hope that one day I will be able to say this and truly mean it with all my heart. I am and will be more than what happened.

Hugs,

Mia

[Guest_128]

Yeah well now it means a lot to me too,

you are such a sweetie, you are doing really well.

Dory, here catch this💐

[Mia001]

Hi everyone,

Thank you Dory, the flowers are beautiful. I will keep them somewhere special (:

My session yesterday went well. I was pretty nervous about it actually because of last time. I freeze up sometimes even just thinking about what happened to me. I try to block it out, try not to think about it, but its still there.

I wasn't sure what was supposed to happen next, whether she'd want to talk about it more. I think she gets how hard it is for me right now, because she didn't ask a lot of questions. She was more interested in how I cope living with my brother, especially since we work together. To be honest, I'm not really sure of the answer either! Maybe its because I just try to ignore it, and pretend everything is okay. But its not really okay. Everything is so complicated... I guess I know what to do. Take it slow, one step at a time, because that's the only way I'm going to sort this out. I'm starting to realize this is going to take a long, long time. Or maybe I'm just too impatient?

Why does it have to be this hard?!

Mia

[White_Rose]

Mia

I want to let you know I will be away from the forums for a short while. I hope Dory will continue to talk to you. OK with you Dory?

There will still be people replying to your posts and supporting you. I'll be back, to quote Arnie.

Mary

[Guest_5218]

Hello Mia,

I know I havent been around in the last week, but I have been watching from afar.

Really pleased to hear that your latest session with your counsellor went well. You really are a brave young lady. Yes your home and work situation is very complicated, and I fully understand why your counsellor is interested in hearing how you cope with all that. You are a remarkably resilient person Mia, and I greatly admire you.

One step at a time is a good philosophy, and I know you will sort things out in the end. Your professional support is an important factor in that, as is your ability to speak freely here on the forums. Which I'm pleased to see, you are now doing more frequently. That in itself, is a sign of progress. None of this happens in a hurry though, as you well realise. Impatient? Maybe, but when you are young and with so many good things ahead of you, its understandable you want everything now. This whole process may be hard, but I assure you it will get easier. I have every faith in you to succeed Mia.

I see Mary is taking a well earned break and will therefore not be around for a little while, and Dory is away for the weekend. But you are not alone Mia. If you need to talk anytime ... just holler and I'll be here.

I hope your weekend is a good one.

Sherie xx