Morning Wednesday. I refer to your comments:
"I wake up in the morning to his fears for the day. He says that he wants to do something about his anxiety, but won't do anything. In a funny way his anxiety is comfortable space for him to live in".
"I can only make small steps, since my heath suffers if I get upset, so it's all about remaining calm. I also realised that I have couple (give or take) of drinks most nights to cope with P's anxiety off-loading, which is a bit silly. I'll need to sort that out too. I never drink alone, which is useful so I know I can stop".
What a shame that P will not seek or accept any help for his anxiety. It is obviously an ongoing problem for him. Does he have a GP that he is comfortable with, and who he sees on a fairly regular basis?
It appears to me that you are having to try to cope not only with your own constant medical issues and pain, but also P's anxiety, which is affecting your own health as much as his.
As P has stated that he is committed to your relationship, do you think it could be worthwhile to suggest some couples counselling? You do both have a lot personally to contend with physically and/or emotionally, and sometimes our closest relationships suffer in the process. Perhaps some counselling could help you both to set some parameters which are acceptable to you both, and possibly even help resolve some of the extended family issues as well. Do you think P may be agreeable to this?
With regards to the possibility of settling in the Central Coast region, it is a beautiful region of NSW, proximity to Sydney is good with road and rail options, medical and hospital infrastructure very good, and climate beautiful compared to VIC. (-: Definitely worth thinking about if you decide to go down that path.
I hope you have a good day today Wednesday.
Love and hugs.
Sherie xx
