Struggling to go on

[Tess2]

Life is being really hard for me and troubles keep compounding. I cannot face wading through what is needed to move forward I feel isolated and alone. I have people who care but I think they can be overloaded with my despair and it can be a burden. There seem to be obstacles all along the way.

Two years ago I lost my job. A career of 50 years. I am 66 and have no partner. I have not coped well with this loss and now have significant financial problems too. I have to sell my home. Pay off my mortgage and buy a new place. I live with my son who is very caring but I have suppported him financially and emotionally through the family court. His ex is trying to remove him from his daughters life. I feel I have reached my retirement years with very little and no joy. Depression has been a big part of my life. But I have managed. Now I also have severe anxiety. It paralyses me. And panic attacks. I don’t know how to do each day.

[stormcloudz]

Hi Tess, just checking in to see how you are going. I'm sure it's a rocky ride getting the house sorted....

[Guest8901]

Dear Tess,

I've been meaning to go looking for your thread for ages. Sorry it took me so long. Its much more difficult to find the long termers now that they're not coming up on the New Posts list. I had to physically search you out. Anyway I've got you on My Threads now. Thus I will be able to keep abreast of whats happening with you from now, as posts come through.

I note you've not posted for a few days and that, as of Wednesday, your anxiety was at an 'all time high'. I think you're in WA, so its not a long weekend for you. Though I think you had one last weekend? I have not yet read right through your thread, so am not fully aware of how things are with you. So I wont say too much just yet, but will find the time to go back and read. Have you had any luck with your search for a home?

For now ... I wanted you to know I care about you and hope that you're feeling better than you were at your latest post.

Sending kind thoughts and healing vibes. 🤗

With a wave to Stormcloudz and Karen.

Amanda

[Tess2]

Hi Amanda, Stormcloudz and Grandy,

thanks for the responses and support. I have really been struggling with my anxiety and low mood. I have to now find somewhere to live and am super stressed by it all. Yes I am in WA.

Right now I have this icy cold feeling in the centre of my chest it is horrible. I am super anxious.

Tess

[stormcloudz]

Hi Tess

Glad you posted, I've been wondering how things were going.

Does that mean you have sold your house? If so, congratulations. I know that the next step is now consuming your thoughts, but if you have managed to sell your house, that's a great milestone and took a lot of effort.

Do you want to talk through your criteria for the new house? Someone did that with me when I had to move and it was helpful.

I know this is a really tough and disruptive time. You seem to be getting things done despite the anxiety which is great.

I haven't had the cold weight on my chest but I have had plenty of physical symptoms of anxiety. Can you try a hot water bottle on your chest and some slow breathing? It won't get rid of the anxiety entirely but it might slow your brain down a little, which I found helped a bit.

In the meantime, we'll be here with you as you go through this difficult period.

[Ggrand]

Hello Tess,

I want to thank you very much for your very supportive post on my thread, I will reply on mine today sometime, Im slowly getting up from that hell hard place..

Im not to sure if you have sold your house. Tess if you have just relax and enjoy looking for your new home...I know your all stressed out. Please Tess while your looking don't be worrying about time frames etc,not sure now, but many years ago, you could stay in the home you sold at a cheap rental for another 6-8 weeks until you found and moved into your new home...if your stressing about times etc..Please speak to your solicitor,about your real estate concerns.. I told my solicitor that I had no idea about selling my house and buying another one..She took me through step by step..and done everything for me except find my home...

How are you doing?.. That icy cold feeling in the chest sound horrible, Stormcloudz suggestion of a heat pack or hot water bottle sound like it could work....along with your breathing excercises..

I know your scared sweetheart, I'm thinking back 3 years ago when I had to sell my home and buy this one...That was my first ever decision ..I had so much fear in me, I was physically sick...My children 8 hours away, were no help,..I was on my own....

I guess what I'm trying to say to you Tess...is, your a strong person, you can do this..Try to think of the new adventure that's awaiting you, in your new home, new area and new neighbours...

Ok. I just wanted to pop in and say hello and see how your feeling...haha I did a more then pop in..I stayed long enough for a cuppa or two....Talk here Tess if you need to..Were here for you as you were and are for me/us...

🙋..Hello Stormcloudz, I like your avatar reason.💜..Hello Amanda. 🐞....

Tess I saw some beautiful roses 🌹 and I picked one and wanted to give it to you, if you feel stressed out, think of this beautiful rose and Imagine the scent of it as well as us all holding your hand..

Big warm squishy comfy hugs..

Grandy..

[stormcloudz]

Hi Grandy, I love your posts : )

Something I really like about this forum is that people support each other even when they are in a bad place themselves. Tess has been popping up on various threads even though I'm sure it's a tough time for her, and Grandy you are often stretching out a hand. It's really helpful to know that other people have been through similar things, and to understand how they have managed. Thanks everyone.

[Ggrand]

Hello Stormcloudz,

Thank you about loving my posts..

im sorry if I missed it at all but I searched through the forums as best I could I am wondering if you have a thread of your own, if so if it's okay with you, what is your tile? .

Grandy....xx

[Ggrand]

Hello Tess,

Im just popping in to see how you're doing I'm a little concerned as you haven't posted in a few days..no pressure but Are you okay?..

Special comforting hugs 🤗.

Grandy...xx

[stormcloudz]

Grandy - I don't have a thread of my own yet... I'm quite shy : )

Tess - I'm also wondering how you are going, you can see a few of us checking in with you above. I'm guessing the house business is all-consuming. Hope you are doing OK.

[stormcloudz]

Hey Tess, just hoping you are OK, and that you've seen the messages of support above. I know it's been a busy time for you. Don't forget the BeyondBlue helpline if things are difficult, sometimes they can make useful suggestions, or at least be a friendly ear.