Should I just suck this up?

[monkey_magic]

OK, this isn't easy for me to write bcas I respect police also but this is my situation.

I aparantly unlawfully entered a friends property, that's right a friends property. He wasn't home and I wasn't believed. Anyhow I was put in a mental institution. I preferred the hospital choice over the police station choice thinking I'll be in there for a couple weeks.

3 months later I came out overmedicated feeling like shite...misdiagnosed with a mental illness as a " safety net" seriously!!!!

3 months of my life where I couldn't work, and live my normal life. Inclosed in a small space, going crazy.

Should I just " suck this up". ?

[geoff]

Hello MM, thanks for comment, and yes the forums have always been a place where so many people have been able to converse, not only with each other, but with newcomers and a place we can feel at home helping one another, but when people aren't happy then we have a problem.

Geoff.

Life Member.

[monkey_magic]

Hi everyone,

I still don't like these new forums- bring back the old, but I'll post anyway. I have some good and bad news. The bad news is a man Ive worked with for the last 4 yrs passed away. He was a smoker and cancer got him. Ive been thinking about him today- very sad. I will never forget Mario. 

The good news is my name was drawn for the weight maintenance competition and I won. I maintained my weight loss and I won $200 American which ended up being $265 Australian. For those that don't know I signed up to do a weight loss competition. I'm saving my cash and it feels good to have it grow. All going towards a new car when I have enough. 

It was my birthday the other day- the big 40 and I went out to an all you can eat restaurant, then a German restaurant. The German restaurant had pork crackling to die for, it was so good. 

Not much else to report so I'll leave it there, hope you're all doing ok. 

[ecomama]

Hey MM, yes I missed your last post, so it's difficult for us old members to work it out. 

What did your Car Insurance Co do? 
I understand that yes we are all in a "yearly contract". Paying monthly is an option (I pay yearly bec it's cheaper). 
Do you mean you had to pay an "Excess"? 
Or do you mean you had to pay the WHOLE year's insurance policy out? 

I guess if you had another car already, they could transfer your policy (with changes for the next car) and carry on? I've not been in that situation. That's an interesting thing they did. 

YAY! Congratulations on winning AU$265! That's fantastic MM! 

Well done you for continuing your path & reaching goals. Quite the achievements there MM lol. 
Proud of you. 

So sorry for the loss of your friend. That's tough. So sad when we lose someone we're close to. Hugs. 

WOW CONGRATULATIONS ON THE BIG 4-0! I'm happy for you that you got to have a FUN night out for your birthday. TWO Restaurants lol? Why not hey? I'm kinda partial to some good pork crackling myself. 
ALDI had a great special on Pork Belly last weekend, so I bought 2 of the biggest ones I could find. ALDI is only around the corner for us. Made Asian Pork Belly... yum. 

How's Nan & mum doing? 

Praying for more work! 
Love EM

[monkey_magic]

Hi Em & all, 

I had to pay the insurance company out for the year, I didn't realise I was in a yearly contract.

Mum and nan are good. I had coffee and cake with them today. 

I saw the neurosurgeon today and I'm getting a colloid cyst cut out of my brain on the 25/8. I'm feeling depressed about it because I wish I wasn't in this situation but I am and just have to suck it up. I'm going to spend 5-8 days in hospital and I'm going to need 6 weeks to 3 months off work she said. 

[mmMekitty]

Hi Monkey,

That's unfortunate about the insurance. 

& I wish you didn't have to get the surgery either. Sounds major, & very scary. Write down& ask every question you have, & even questions others might have, that you might not think of.

Are you able to have someone go with you to the hospital on the day of the pre-op & the day you are admitted? From my own experience, it makes the days when I had to go to the hospital very much easier, because I had my helper with me, & she took notes, too, & helped me keep up with what was going on, where we went, & was someone to talk to, a distraction from thinking too much. Whether it's a family member, friend or carer, like mine, doesn't matter much, just so long as it is someone who won't be overwhelmed by the situation.

For myself, I like to know everything. What do you think? Do you want to know all the details, what & exactly how they do the surgery? Or would you rather not know? Since you do have to sign a consent form, you will need to know some things, which they can take you through. Try to listen & ask them to explain anything you don't understand - especially if it worries you.

Before Aug 25, although it may be difficult, get in a lot of quiet time, self-care, nice music, meandering walks through a park maybe, sleep, all the good stuff I am sure I don't need to tell you any more about.

💖💖💖💖

Warmly,

mmMekitty

[Croix]

Dear MM - with a wave to everyone else~

I'm sorry to hear about your coworker Mario and hope you do not miss him too much.

However I'm glad you Mum and Nan are better, and that you won the weight competition -that's a 2-way win I guess, the cash plus being in a healthier state wiht the satisfaction of having done it.

I want to wish you happy birthday too🎂, a lot's talked about hitting 40, but I don't remember feeling any different:) Still it sounds as if you had a very good (and filling:) time.

Going into hospital for the operation sounds a real downer, not just the op which I'd expect will be just fine, but the amout of time in the hospital  (can be so boring)  then not working for so long afterwards.

I'm amazed at the number of excellent practical tips mmMekitty has offered you, sounds like she certainly knows what to do.

Do you think using a bike for a bit would be practical (on fine days at least)? It's certainly cheaper but  I guess depends a lot on if you live in a busy area and have far to go. I used a bike (motor that is:) as my main transport most of my life.

I'm sure we will all be sending you happy thoughts around the 25th

Croix

[ecomama]

Hey MM, our little darling, I'm so sorry to hear about the cyst on you brain being found! Were you shocked at this news? 
How are you doing coping with the news now? 
I'm sorry I didn't see your reply to me! 

Do you know how long they expect you to stay off work for your recovery after surgery? 

Were you getting headaches or something? 

Am I asking too many questions? That's an attempt at humour. I guess being worried about you shows, hey. 

I'm happy to hear your mum and Nan have recovered. That's great news on 2 fronts. One they've recovered. Two you have a great gene pool. 

Your news about the cyst was quite out of the blue for me to hear, hence so many questions about it all.
We'll be here for you all the way. 

PS: Hi Croix and Kitty and all MM supporters, 

Love EMxxxx

[mmMekitty]

😸Hi Croix & Monkey, I just want to say "thank you" to Croix for mentioning all the good things you, Monkey, told us about.

I know I read a few earlier posts, to catch up, but I guess, like EM, I was shocked by the prospect of your upcoming surgery, other things went completely out of my head.

It is sad about Mario. Was he ill for a long time? 

I read the good news again, & it is a pleasure, you had a good birthday, a win of some money to put towards your new car, your Mum & Nan recovering from being ill.

Hmm, 3 - 6 months off work? It occurs to me there are more questions about what you can expect after the surgery, how you might feel, & how recovery looks?

I feel I have all sorts of questions coming out of my ears! Remember, you don't have to actually answer any questions I write here, because I only ask, so you can reflect & think about these things for yourself. I'm interested, (as I said, I like knowing all about things people experience), but I don't actually have to know.

& the horrible thing is, tell me & I'll most likely forget before the hour is up. My own memory is teaching me to live in the moment! (haha, but not really that funny either, mmMekitty thinks)

Still, I will be around, & thinking of you.

💖💖💖💖

Warmly,

mmMekitty

[Ggrand]

Hello Dear lovely Magic, and your beautiful supporters/friends…🤗..

I only just read your post, and so much wanted to say how sorry I am that you have a cyst on your brain…..It came as quite a shock to me…and I’m sure you as well….I am so pleased that they found it and early enough to operate and remove it……My heart and prayers are with you sweet friend….I know in my heart and soul that you will recover very well and be back to working and having some time out with your friends soon….

I was saddened to hear about your dear co-worker….may he Rest In Peace….

Congratulations on winning the weight loss program..I remember when you first told us here..I had a good feeling about you being able to win….your determination in doing things 100% has always been a great strength of yours….You truely are our forum warrior women….

Big milestone birthday…happy birthday beautiful lady….I really do hope that you had a nice day out and done something nice for yourself…❤️🎊🎀….I have a little virtual gift for you…if that’s okay…it’s a tiny crystal vase…that is full of hugs, care and love…when your feeling down Magic just hold it close to your heart and you will feel the love and care we all have for you….❤️🌹🕊🤗 and you will feel a warmth envelope you as those hugs seep through the crystal and enter your beautiful soul….

I really hope that today is a good day for you and all the people reading here…

Sending you my care, hugs and love sweet magic…

Grandy.,

[monkey_magic]

Hi everyone my deepest gratitude for your posts, I will try and answer all of your questions here. 

Mario was sick for about a year I think, last time I saw him he was very thin, I still miss him and think of him quite often. 

I've known about the cyst for a long time, just never thought much about it or had it checked on because I didn't realise the seriousness of it but when the neurosurgeon explained I could just drop dead from it I took it seriously. I have the pre- op on Thur so I'm sure I'll learn a lot more about the surgery then, I don't need to know everything but it wouldn't hurt to be informed. The surgery came as a shock to me bcas I wasn't expecting it. I have had blurry vision and I get head pressure. When I got my head scanned after the car accident a man came and saw me and was saying I needed to have an MRI urgently after he saw the cyst in my brain. It's in the middle of my brain and yes it's major surgery. 

Croix I really need a car. I used to ride a bike around for leisure but I work a fair distance from home. 

Thankyou for the bday present Grandy, I will treasure it.