i need help please

[Jackson1994]

is there anybody there

i need some help i cant cope with this anymore please help

- jackson

[Jackson1994]

Yeah you can join in geoff 🙂

[Jackson1994]

I guess the pressure also stems from both my mum and step dad having pretty good jobs so I sort of feel like I owe it them to do the same, like they won't be proud of me unless I go out and get a good job or something

[Kazzl]

Good morning Jackson! I'm really pleased to hear from you again, and glad you got some sleep.

Jackson can you talk to your parents about this? I know it's hard to start a conversation about such things, but I also know as a mum of two adult children, that if they were suffering or stressed I'd want to know. What do you think?

I am really glad you're feeling a bit better. 😀

Kaz

[CMF]

Goodmorning Jackson,

Good to hear from you and glad you got some sleep. My parents were the same, asking what i was going to do with my life, what did i want to be. I had a few ideas but no idea. I really wanted to work in retail which they were not impressed with. I ended up working for a bank, back then working for a bank was a big deal.

You can't waste your time studying something you don't want to do. So you enjoy the cafe, what do you do there? Do you make coffees? If you really like it there, how about a barista course? The barista at my local cafe had a top personality and made the best coffees, he was approached and offered a job for a new cafe in the city earning good money. The owner of the local cafe told him he had to take, it was a great opportunity. Something like this could lead to you opening your own place one day. You need to follow your passion.

These jobs that may seem simple to some can lead to bigger things, look at hairdressers, they often leave school at 16 but if they are good and passionate,they can end up owning their own salons.

what do you have planned for today? It's cold in Melbourne, the thought of you surfing makes me shiver 🙂

cmf

[Kazzl]

Morning CMF - a big hug to you hun. You are a treasure.

It's bright and sunny in Canberra this morning. And Melbourne being Melbourne, maybe it will be for you later haha. Hope you're feeling good my friend.

I've slept in, so I could do with one of your coffees right about now Jackson. Flat white no sugar please.

Cheers

Kaz

[Jackson1994]

Thanks, I can try to talk to them. I'd prefer to talk to Mum about it.

Its sunny here but cold, not surprisingly, it is May after all.

Haha yeah I can post it to you if you like, might be cold though

[geoff]

hi Jackson, I feel as though your mum and step dad are pushing into finishing a uni degree, which you don't like and two, don't want to pushed into doing, that's fair enough, because you know your heart won't be into completing the course, missing assignments and not even going to class, so really you would wasting your time, just to try and make your mum/step-dad happy.
This will never happen and you can't be pressured into doing a course that you don't want to do, it's pointless, you need to make up your own mind.
It's a parents responsibility to raise their children as best as they can, but should you have to return that favour, well people may disagree, but all I want is for my two sons is to be happy, safe and raise their own children as best as they can, they don't owe me anything, and I certainly don't expect it from them, because now they are adults they make their decisions.
Jackson this is what you should be thinking about, because you're trapped at the moment, break free. Geoff.

[Jackson1994]

Yeah at work I make coffees and I take orders, been asked to manage a few times when the boss has been away, that was pretty fun.

I was thinking of going for a surf but it's quite a drive down there so I have to make sure the surf is good and it's worth the trek.

[Jackson1994]

It's mostly my step dad, he's very set in his ways that if you don't go uni i won't have a good career outcome, he was the same when I was doing VCE, I have to do these subjects to get a good score and get into uni, because if I didn't I wouldn't be doing much with my life, he's not aggressive or mean about it but he just doesn't get it, things aren't like that anymore. I did get a good score in year 12 and I could of gotten into uni but I didn't want to. A lot of my friends just picked a course because they had to, they might enjoy it now but at the time they just picked one off a list because it sounded ok, not because they really wanted to do it.

Mum is a bit different, she is sort of in between, encouraging me to find what I want to do.

[CMF]

I'll have a chai latte please, no powdered stuff, real leaves if you have it please. I'm in Melbourne too, lovely and sunny, but cold. I don't mind that, i hate extreme heat. i like the crisp fresh air.

So you enjoyed managing while the boss was away, that's great, maybe head in this direction, stepping up taking on more. You can only learn from it. You could, if you wish do a business management course, although i think you could learn more by hands on experience.

Morning Kaz, hugs back to you, so great to see you x

Geoff (goodmorning) is spot on with this 'It's a parents responsibility to raise their children as best as they can, but should you have to return that favour, well people may disagree, but all I want is for my two sons is to be happy, safe and raise their own children as best as they can, they don't owe me anything, and I certainly don't expect it from them, because now they are adults they make their decisions.'

You need to do what makes YOU happy otherwise you will always have regret and possibly ill feelings towards your parents for pushing you to do something you don't want to do.

cmf