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help needed - i just can't ask
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Thanks Stressless
It helps to be reminded that this is not an instant thing.
My problem is opening up. I am the typical smiling depression. A lot of my friends don't know my struggles and if you took one look at me you would have no idea that I'm depressed. It's only a privileged few that i've told or have noticed the subtle changes.
Even hubby knows that im not well but we don't have long conversations about it. He has tried but I give him nothing. We have no secrets, he knows my story but still i find it that difficult to discuss emotions.
I fear that even my counsellor doesn't know how bad I feel at times.
Thanks for your time Stressless. I hope you're doing ok
Annie
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Dear Annie
Opening up is difficult. Although I am a bit caustic about my first psychiatrist I have to say I contributed to the non-communication mess. I would talk about this and that but when he wanted to get a bit more detail I would make a joke and change the subject. He used to get frustrated but then he also contributed to the mess. He would fall asleep while I was talking. A wonderful ego-booster.
I have been seeing a psychiatrist for two years now. She is female and very good. My GP made a great effort to find someone who had a good reputation and who would probably work well with me. I was wary to start with but she was patient and I can talk about a lot more now than in the past.
There is this tension between seeing a psychologist or psychiatrist. You can see a psychologist via a GP Mental Health plan and have up to ten subsidised visits per calendar year. I think most people need more than this and if you go every fortnight the sessions will end quickly. You can of course pay the full fees and continue attending.
A psychiatrist's fees are always rebated through Medicare though there is often a large out of pocket expense. Once you reach the Medicare safety level you get the majority of the fee back. Call into Medicare and check out where you sit with this and how it works.
This is the fees part. Psychiatrists seem to go deeper into your past and look, with you, at all the happenings in your life. They take a very broad view of your life and want you to understand the impact of your childhood etc on your life. Psychologists tend to concentrate on what is happening in the here and now and giving you tools to manage what you have. I am quite willing to be corrected on this.
So it boils down to cost and availability, and the type of therapy you want/need. I think this discussion would be best held with your GP. If you are going to do this then write down some notes on your current interactions with your psych and how you feel about her. And also what sort of person you would like to talk to.
I don't really know whether you need a new psych of any persuasion. Sometime you appear to be managing very well with your current psych and at other times really wanting to run away. I think a lot of this is more because of your fears and trying to put your toe in the water, deciding it's too cold and running back up the beach. It's easy to make it it the psych's fault (which it is at times).
Love to know what you think.
Mary
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Thank you Mary
You are spot on as usual. I don't like cold water and much prefer retreating to the beach. Thanks for your insight. I'm not sure running away from this counsellor will help. Might have to get in knee high before I pass judgement.
I hope you are feeling better. Please take care of yourself
Annie
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Glad to be of service. My GP has ordered me back to bed as apparently I am not getting better. Change of antibiotic and rest. Now when I feel well this would be good to do. Funny how it's always different when you feel under the weather.
MAry
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Take care of yourself Mary
get well soon!
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Hey Annie,
Ive seen you around but was just checking up on you . How are things going now ? Is your councillor appt soon?
I would like you to pop over to the circle thread if you have time. We would love to have you there .
Plenty of room by the fire, and just quietly I've overindulged with all the goodies being passed around , so could probably use some of your exercise tips!
Only if you're up to it of course.
look after you
Stressless
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Thanks for the invitation Stressless
My counselling appointment was yesterday. I did what I needed to do and asked her for help. We had a good talk but it has left me emotionally drained. I've retreated back up the beach into my little cave to hide for awhile.
I hope you're doing ok
shout out to Quercus -it seems you are having a hard time so i wish you well too
And Mary, I hope that the antibiotics and bed rest are helping.
i'm thinking of you all
Annie
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Today i feel as though I need to congratulate my 20 year old self.
Back then I despised myself and participated in a lot of self destructive behaviour. If only I knew how effective I was. That be not looking after myself and placing myself at risk, I experienced something horrid. Something that continues to destroy me, something that I fear may one day actually destroy me.
Well done.
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Hey Annie
Not sure where this us coming from
Has something triggered you ? All our past behaviours form part of who we are , but they are just that - in the past
You have made huge progress, why do think like this at the moment?
Talk if you want - here for you
Stressless
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Sorry Stressless
just feeling a bit fed up and a bit crap at the moment