Anxiety and depression/loneliness

[Branka]

Hi to everyone. I have recently moved to Melbourne from Sydney to be with my 2 younger sons and grandson. It was a major decision as I had been living in Sydney for 50 years. I thought that moving would be great. My anxiety and depression has become worse. I have had clinical depression since I was 16 and anxiety for most of my life.

I am living with my youngest son and his wife. He abuses me verbally and emotionally and I now wonder if the move was wise. I simply don't have the energy nor finances to move back to Sydney. I feel lonely and sad as I just don't know what to do. I have no friends however, I have started working whicj has made me feel better.

I am divorced and unable to protect myself from my son's abuse. This is making me extremely anxious and sad. Why did I move in with him? Because I thought he may have changed particularly as he had recently married. I was wrong and feel really confused.

I am new to this forum and hope that I can find some support. Thank you.

[Croix]

Dear Branka~

I don't really have any suggestions about your finances, you are the person on the spot and will make sensible judgments, and take up opportunities if they arise. You've done just that ever since you first started posting.

Your psych is spot on, that behavior was a dominance or control ploy. It would have hurt, even if not effective. Mother's hope is a wonderful thing, I truly wish in time it is fulfilled.

I guess all I can suggest is to try to put financially shaky times in perspective by filling as much of your life as you can with things you enjoy. I use books, movies, walks and other bit and pieces, I look forward to doing them every day, and my mind floats away into other lands. I return a little more refreshed and the ominous clouds are not as dark.

What sorts of things would fill the bill for you?

Croix