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Alone..Depressed..Sad..

Ggrand
Community Champion
Community Champion
Hi..I'm new here..just need to put my feeling down..no one to talk to makes depression and anxiety so hard...the last 4 days I have either been in bed crying or on the lounge crying..I can't seem to get out of this...I am becoming a prisioner in my own home as its getting progressively difficult to go out.. I have to go out Tuesdays so I do everthing on that day but it's like I'm holding my breathe all day until I get back to the safety of my home then I can let go and that starts the cycle again of spending the next 6 days at home either in bed or on the lounge sad and depressed...I really feel like just giving up.. My husband passed away 4 years on This coming Thursday. My children live 6 hours drive away and have small children so I don't see them that much.Bad mum and grandmum I am on there last visit i was pleased to see them but I just wanted them to go home. I feel so aweful and numb atm..
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demonblaster
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi there dear bbff 👩‍❤️‍👩 and all other lovelies 👋

Really is so good and must be such a relief that your dear Bens recovering well. Wow he had a bad one going by what you mentioned. Must be a good feeling recovering and quickly too and the family must be feeling relief too.

That was good wasn't it the job sending him that part. No doubt would have been quite a buzz for him to be doing what he clearly does well and yes being needed would be a powerful mental boost too. Good on them.

Dear Grandy that's so sad to be grieving what you didn't have 🤗 I'd never think from you it was jealousy and know you'd be so happy for them. I'm glad you had some time with them although under hard circumstances it'd be good seeing them.

Uh oh what a shame about the Doona. Oh dear I can imagine what state it was in. Sounded pretty too. I like that Pawsy said they must feel comfortable there.

Ahh bet they were over the moon seeing you and vice versa. They sound so gorgeous. I think about them running around the house sometimes chasing each other so cute it puts a smiley thought on

Yip I prefer to know too if someones coming, don't blame you being annoyed lovey it doesn't always suit aye. She's not much chop huns. Big shame. Oh just in case I forget we had our last visit with my mhw. Another big shame too.

😅 I reckon Croixy will adore those little cute 🦋 you gave him sneezing included 😆 that's a bonus Croixy man. Love sneezing but usually only do 1 at a time.

Thanks for your lovely post at mine Mrs gorjy ☺. Won't be too far off

I really hope you're doing ok Grandy love there's been a flow of hards going on for a while. Gotta have some good times too don't we to even it out. Agreed you're very good at finding beauty and positives in your surroundings. Does help in the hards at times

Grandy darlin you really are in my 🗯 all the time. Its so comforting having you as a besty 👩‍❤️‍👩💜 sweet lady. PubAok yAdimh with our unbreakable 💫 yay finally found it. You're a strong beautiful person who deserves happiness and peace 🤗 oh and lots of those soul touching warm lasting hugs.

Hope todays good sweetyheart. Have you been looking at our gum tree lately I've been thinking more of it. Whenever like last night I look at the stars I think of you too ☺

You are SO loved and appreciated dear friend 😚🦋🌈🌞

Hanna3
Community Member

Hi Grandy

I'm glad to hear your son is doing well.

I'm sorry your support worker turned up unannounced, I don't like it when people do that either! She should have phoned to let you know.

Love your furs eating bones on your bed! I guess it is their safe place.

Big hugs 🤗💖🐕🌄💝

Ggrand
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hello, Magic, Paws, Deebi👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩, Hanna and everyone...🤗.

Thank you for your beautiful posts...

I honestly don’t know what I would do or where I would be without you all in my life...

Ben is recovering very well and have his stitches and draining bag taken out on Friday...needless to say my son is very excited about the removal...some of his burns are healing others are not healing as quickly...He told me he feels no pain at all now in his stomach and along his arms and face...ribs are still sore as are the deeper burns especially on his ear and fingers....

I do wish I was still there...he is being his naughty self and going into work some days to find small things he can fix...or take home to fix, he has always been a hands on type of person and sitting without doing anything, is something that he finds hard to do....Would he listen to me and stay home for the couple of months he is supposed to?...No, he wouldn’t...I have to accept that he knows his body and his limitations as they are right now...

Back to work today and it was a good distraction from the past couple of weeks...it went well...so busy and a couple of regular customers said that they missed me and am pleased I’m back...That was so nice and made me feel appreciated...Betty’s car is out of action again!... so I’ll be her chauffeur this week..☺️..

My little fur girls love to jump on my bed when the front door is closed, because that way they are high enough and can sticky beak out the front window...when they hear some noise, or people walking/talking, cars going by etc...They really do let people know that they are around...and guarding their home...

No hurry to reply at yours bbff...only when you feel up to it..sending you a few bear huggly 🤗🤗🤗, and lots of love 💖💚💜and care..🌹🦋🕊🌱.

Kind thoughts with my love, care and hugs to everyone listening here..🤗🦋🧸🌹..

👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩Grandy..

quirkywords
Community Champion
Community Champion

Grandy

So pleased to read that your son is on way to recovery.

You are an important member of this forum and as a champion you support so many people.

Best wishes to and all the caring people on this thread.

Ggrand
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hello Quirky, Hi, Deebi👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩, Hanna, Paws and everyone..🤗.

Thank you Quirky...it’s so lovely to see you here...Your words to me, lifted me up today when I read them....I have been a lot more emotional since my son’s accident and unsure sometimes on what to say to people....I am also so pleased he is healing well... each day he tells me he is gets a little better....Hmmm does a mum ever stop being concerned about their children or does a mum ever realise their children are well and truely adults....or are they always children in our hearts?....

I worked out back today...because the co-ordination I worked under last year has come back to work on Tuesdays and has taken over again....Mondays I’m still out front...I had a more relaxed day today, sorting out the donations on my own and not serving the customers... my arthritis didn’t like it though 😂...and did start to protest only after an hour...Wish we all could grow old without the aches and pains that seem to be attached to it....

The big gum tree is shredding all it’s bark...It does it each year...and sometimes a cockatoo or 2 will help with the shredding....The road in front of mine is covered in bark, so is my front lawn and across the road...seems to miss both my neighbours yards and road frontage...I think it’s a shame for that beautiful bark to go waste...I wonder if there is a way to recycle or use the bark somehow....any one got any ideas?...

Big hugs to everyone....🧸🤗..with kind thoughts...

👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩Grandy...

Paw Prints
Valued Contributor
Valued Contributor

Hello Grandy,

I don't have children myself... but from what I see with the people I know... I don't think parents ever stop worrying about their children... no matter how old the children are they are always your babies.

It's great news to hear your son is feeling better in himself... I do think the not listening is a boy thing... though in this case it might actually be good for his mental health to be able to feel he can still be useful & do his work... that is as long as he doesn't over do it... but from what you have said about the support of his wife & kids... I don't think they will let him do that.

Most of the gums around here shed their bark at this time of year too...

If you chop the strips of bark up you can use them as mulch on your garden... a home mulcher (can get them at hardware stores, though a bit pricey) is the easiest way... or you can chop them up by running your lawn mower over a pile of them... being eucalypts I'm not sure how well non native plants would react to them as mulch... but they do suppress weeds well... or you can place small strips about you garden as shelter for small lizards etc... make them small as you don't want them big enough for a snake to hide under... I can't remember if you have a wood heater... but if you store some & let it dry out it makes good kindling for the fire come winter...

Wouldn't it be lovely to not have the aches & pains as we get older... you are so good at moving about which is said to be good for strengthening our muscles to help support our joints & reduce the pain... I need to take a leaf from your book...

Huggliest of hugs

Paws

Ggrand
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hello Paws, Deebi, Hanna and everyone....🤗

My son is now free of his stitches and draining bag....and msged me yesterday to say how much better he is feeling...The bag was stitched into his skin and said that hurt quite a bit when they removed it....He did say that being unable to do much has been good for him, because he is learning to trust that the other employees can do the work he sets out for them...without him helping them too much and is now more confident he can slip more easily into his role as factory manager...and supervise more instead of trying to do everything himself...

Thank you Paws, I have been collecting the bark that is falling on the road and have piled it up for mowing....I will attend to that when I feel up to mowing next....which I better hurry up and feel like😂...

Not really good at moving about...only when I have to..mostly I just sit around watching you tube vids or playing Homescapes....Which I think to myself is a waste of my life, I really should do something outside each day...but motivation isn’t something that I possess very much....I suppose instead of thinking about doing things I should just get up and do them...hard though especially if I need to get other things (tools etc) ready before I do what needs doing..

My pumpkins are growing each day..I read it takes up to 110 days for them to ripen...and they need to ripen before the frost starts as the frosts freezes and then rots them...I have a small...very tiny mulberry shoot I need to replant into a bigger pot....I get allergies 🤧🤧 from the flowers, but not the fruit..I do live mulberries and ice cream...so much hope that it grows out my way....As I always say...We can only try!.

Its a beautiful day here today...bit windy but none the less beautiful....Hope your day today, where ever you live in this gorgeous universe is a good day for you all...

Sending my hugs, my fur girls hugs and our care to you all..🤗🤗🕊🌱..

Hiya bbff...,bear hugs🧸🤗 with lots of sss love 💕...I hope your okay...

👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩Grandy..

Mulberries? I don’t think I’ve ever had mulberries. Are they anything like blackberries? They’re my favourite!

I think there’s a few of us here lacking motivation, Grandy. I’m currently lying on my bed at midday, having achieved nothing. And I don’t know if doing enjoyable things count as a wasted life, do they? When it comes to chores, I seem to always find something (or nothing!) better to do.

Hugs to you. Glad your son sounds to be recovering well, and finding the positives. Good on him.

Hello Katy,

Blackberries and mulberries are similar in looks and taste, blackberries grow mainly on shrubs/vines where mulberries grow on a tree....I prefer mulberries they just seem tastier and sweeter then blackberries to me personally....

If I saw my children or grandchildren playing internet games all day...I think I would pack the game away and take them outside to play with them...or find something more meaningful to do......Hmmmm...I need to be more stricter with me....

Hugs dear Katy and everyone..

Grandy..

Croix
Community Champion
Community Champion

Dear Grandy~

It's funny how an accident can have some unexpected positive effects. You son will be a better manager to his staff and maybe less demanding of himself after this enforced distancing. I'm very glad he is improving so quickly.

As a kid I found mulberries a disaster -or at least my parents did. When sent out ot gather the berries I'd come inside with a token amount but stained purple all over. This makes for a great deal of laundry, the stains are stubborn.

I found it worth the telling-off though - delicious :).

Croix