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Alone..Depressed..Sad..

Ggrand
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Hi..I'm new here..just need to put my feeling down..no one to talk to makes depression and anxiety so hard...the last 4 days I have either been in bed crying or on the lounge crying..I can't seem to get out of this...I am becoming a prisioner in my own home as its getting progressively difficult to go out.. I have to go out Tuesdays so I do everthing on that day but it's like I'm holding my breathe all day until I get back to the safety of my home then I can let go and that starts the cycle again of spending the next 6 days at home either in bed or on the lounge sad and depressed...I really feel like just giving up.. My husband passed away 4 years on This coming Thursday. My children live 6 hours drive away and have small children so I don't see them that much.Bad mum and grandmum I am on there last visit i was pleased to see them but I just wanted them to go home. I feel so aweful and numb atm..
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Paw Prints
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Hello Grandy, wave to everyone,

Yay!!!! I'm so happy for you that your brother is finally going to visit.... Woofa & I will keep everything crossed that nothing crops up to prevent it this time.

Having strangers wanting to talk to me would make me uncomfortable too... though lass it actually is a compliment to you... you must have touched their life for the better if they feel they can trust you enough to chat with.

I do wonder about the high prices at some charity shops... most people who shop there do so because they can't afford to pay retail prices... I know these days the charities prefer to have the money raised in order to help people, rather than giving the needy things for free/low price... but it doesn't always sit well with me...

Huggliest of hugs

Paws

demonblaster
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Hey Grandy 👩‍❤️‍👩 Pawsy Hannah Croixy and everyone reading

Darlin I had every intention of replying here today but got sidetracked sorry sweety love 🤗

Reading your last post my heart filled with warmth how lovely people are being towards you darlin. Our dear Pawsy couldn't have worded it better saying how you must have touched their lives for them to want to chat. Love that.

Dear Grandy I know how so incredibly hard it is for you being around people and am aware you'd be fine working out the back again

On the other side though precious lady you've made fantastic progress being out front going against anxieties nag and the fear of peoples wrath with sadly way to much good reason yet you brave it every time you can. You say it's not but I say it's courage dear friend 💪(geez spot the muscle 😄)

I'm not saying/suggesting this for now and very gently encouraging you later down the track maybe you could allow yourself short convos with these people.

Clearly they appreciate and like you which anyone that has a glimpse of our Grandy would (not meaning to embarrass you lovely it's just speaking truth and one day as we've spoken about before you might start to believe the truth from good loving people not the rotters that have treated you so poorly and convinced you of untruths!).

There my darling that's my bit for tonight already crikey times goes sometimes so fast eh then other times drags.

Hoping to get back about other bits tomoz.

How lovely your brothers coming down. Oh Grandy that'll be SO good seeing him again which wow that's come quickly.

Long trip geepers. Hope he stays a while for yours and his sake.

You're so sweet getting some nice food for when he's there. So glad you have him in your life. One of the good ones honey heart eh 🤗💗

You're beyond magic 🦄 Mrs Gorjy which reminds me did you notice at the Iceberg one of our unicorns was busily sharpening it's horn...hymmm 🤔 sounds like they're planning something sassy ... I mean... special over there.

Always my best bbff Grandz 👩‍❤️‍👩💜 with untold daily 🗯sss. YAdimh pubAok. Deep lasting love (DLL) 😚🤗

Thx beasties easing off slowly. Walked again today-SO damned hard!

Nigh nite darlin enjoy your warm sleepy cuppa I left on your bedside table 💗

🦄🦄🦄skewering 🧁🧁🧁competition? They are frozen, after all...

Or they 🦄are 🧶knitting winter 🧣&🧥🧦🧦for Croix...

& the 🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧gosh, the 🦄🦄🦄will be busy!

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I guess Grandy, you are a bit of a celebrity, with people knowing you, but not thinking, will all the customers you meet in a day, you might not remember them, & now you are not working, you'd like your privacy & anonymity. If youstopped to talk to everyone who wanted to say 'hi' & have a chat, your shopping would not get done, & you'd be exhausted. & I don't suppose you would like to pretend you know someone if you really didn't remember them like they remember you.

I've had a couple people, at different times, come up to me & are sure I am someone they know, even have a name they insist is who I am...

Sweet dreams, everyone! I insist!

mmMekitty

Ggrand
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Community Champion

Hello Paws, Deebi👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩, mmMeKitty and everyone....🤗.

Thank you all for your caring posts.,.

I will pop back in tomorrow or the next day to reply properly..

My brother arrived a day early, he turned up at mine on Thursday around 5 O’clock...

Hope you all have a nice night tonight...

my love, care and hugs to you all💜🦋🤗..

Heya special bbff...thinking of you with sss love 💙, deep care🦄👼...and giant hugs..🧸🤗...will pop into yours also bbff...please take good care of you...that also goes for all you beautiful people...please take good care of yourselves..

👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩Grandy 🕊🌱🌿🌳

Paw Prints
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Hello Grandy,

Oh I'm so happy for you that your brother made it this time... I hope he is able to stay a few days at least

Enjoy the hugs lass

with some extra from me 🤗

Paws

demonblaster
Blue Voices Member
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Hey there Grandy 👩‍❤️‍👩 and everyone 👋

Ahh so glad he arrived safely and what a lovely surprise a day early.

Sweety truth precious friend don't worry about coming to mine not that I dont want to see you lovely always a pleasure. Just enjoy your quality time with your dear brother. Stoked for you 😀

Ohh Grandy I have a snile across my face and I bet you do too.

Love you very much special lady.

Always in my mind 👩‍❤️‍👩💜🕊🤗🗯

Nigh nite sweet and everyone sleep well 😴

Ggrand
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hello Paws, Deebi👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩 and everyone...

My brother left early this morning....feeling sad and lonely...it’s been really good catching up with him...I do love him so much...he was the one that found and revived me when I was a very early teenager...my brother has a very special place in my heart...I am going to miss him so much...

Well....on Saturday just gone...a lady in my neighbourhood walked the town trying to find a home for a dog that’s been abused all it’s life...her neighbour moved out and left the dog....it’s a cattle x kelpie..12 months old and a beautiful little girl fur....I told her to bring her around after work today and I’ll see how she goes with my fur girls.....Seems they are getting along really well....hmmm look like I have another fur baby.....I will call her Pepper, because she is black and white speckles on her legs.....I do hope I’m not doing the wrong thing....but once I saw here...I couldn’t live with myself knowing that she might be put down....

Work has been okay...better since the other girl left...We all do our job....My Dr. rang today..she’s back from leave and booked me in for a flu shot this afternoon....now I’m very tired and ouch arm....Dr also has booked me in for my 2nd booster in August....not sure about that though....

I hope you are all doing okay and staying warm...it really has been freezing cold where I live...single figure temperatures through the day....

Deebi....Thank you for saying not to worry about coming to yours....hmmm too late my bbff...eternal love and care always for you...with bear hugs..💙🦄👼🌹🦋🧸🤗..

My love, care and hugs to everyone...💜🌹🦋🤗..

👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩Grandy 🕊🌱🌿🌳..

Paw Prints
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Hello Grandy,

Of course you are missing your brother... it must have been lovely having him there with you... I'm sure he will miss you too... hopefully when the weather warms up he will be back for another visit.

A 12 month old puppy... you are a sweetie taking her in (& brave)... I hope for your sake & hers that she does settle in well... as I know you would find it very hard to have to give her away now she is with you... I do need to say lass if it turns out she is not a good fit for your family it is best if you contact a rescue/rspca & let them find her a home that suits her better... you can google rescues in NSW to find one to take her... a lot of rescues have a policy of not putting any dog down... so you can be sure she will be safe.

Very wintery here too... lots of hail.... Woofa has his coat on & is still in front of the heating... it's meant to be even colder tomorrow.

Stay warm

Big hugs

Paws

Hanna3
Community Member

Hi Grandy,

I think it's a kind thing to take the poor dog, and if she seems to get on well with your other furs, then hopefully she will settle in okay. It's sad an animal should have been mistreated like that.

You will have an even bigger family now, how nice!

😊👨‍👩‍👦❤️🐕🐩🐾🐾💖

mmMekitty
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Hello Grandy, & all - oh the freezing, not quite where I am, of-course, but I'm feeling the cold getting through my fleecy clothes & blankets. Putting my gloves on again, to. So, I am also feeling the static electricity eek! I don't know why it bothers me like it does when, as a children me & my sibs played with static electricity & magnets, (which also kinda, just about panic me, too), It just about makes me wish it was cloudy & humid again!

Getting some sun feels so good...😺so I guess I have to use lots more moisturiser, which seems to decrease static electricity for a while, hours? 2-4 maybe? I've not thought to take note of how long it helps. In really dry cold weather I will use the moisturiser a few times per day, when the sensation of clinging clothese & getting zapped when I touch some objects, stresses me too much.

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I wish you well with having a new furbaby, Grandy. In such a loving & caring home as yours, I'm sure she'll thrive.😺

Are you able to call & chat with your brother, or he calls you?

Do try to avoid getting the flu! This one I've got is pretty nasty. As for getting a flu-booster in August, Grandy, you know, talk to your GP, because whether it is a good idea or not, depends on your own circumstances.

Same goes for all of you!

Virhugs (do you like that word I just invented?) to you all, together with furbabies! You know, the old "Group hug!" although sadly, this has to be virtual

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

mmMekitty