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Advice for Seeking Professional Help (Trigger Warning- Sexual Abuse, Self-Harm, and Suicidal Feelings)

Chloe_M
Valued Contributor
Valued Contributor

Hey guys,

My life at the moment is really complicated, so I'll keep it brief:

  • My parents are extremely strict- they don't let me do anything, when my boyfriend (who was also my best friend) broke up with me, they didn't know
  • I was touched inappropriately last year by someone who I had known for years (not a family member, a peer)
  • I suffered from depression(?) after the breakup for about 5 or so months (I don't have a diagnosis because my parents didn't know)
  • I have stopped now, but I had been self-harming for around 2-3 of those months
  • A couple of weeks ago, the depression and anxiety was so bad that I wanted to kill myself
  • I am always anxious- I have a constant feeling of dread in my stomach
  • I have panic attacks frequently that sometimes are for no reason- these involves sweating, shaking, hyperventilating and crying
  • I really hate germs and am kind of obsessed with washing my hair and sanitising my hands
  • A lot of my 'friends' judge me and some of them bitch behind my back
  • I find that my anxiety is not at the front of my mind when I dance or when I am on this forum helping others
  • My ex and I are friends again, but some weeks he ghosts me and flirts with random girls, and some weeks he acts like my boyfriend again
  • I have only recently 'come out' to my parents about being anxious all the time
  • I am going to see the school counsellor on Monday
  • My parents are going to take me to a GP and get a referral to see a psychologist

I would like some advice on how to talk to a counsellor/psychologist and some general info about confidentiality and stuff like that.

Thanks guys xx

Chloe_M

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Chloe_M
Valued Contributor
Valued Contributor

Starts Haha yes, 5 years after Frozen was released and I still see little girls wearing elsa dresses in the shops. I agree HSM1&2 are the best, 3's okay but 4(?) don't know where they'll go with that if its true they are making it.

Yeah our friendship was very solid throughout year 7&8, towards the end of 8 it completely ended, then through the the start of this year it's been up and down, on and off but I think we are okay now.

Ooo ouch is your back okay now? I get back pain, I have scoliosis so that sucks.

Yes tomorrow I am going to my dads best friends place for lunch, he has a daughter my age, we used to be pretty close but not anymore. She's turned into a rebellious teenager and I'm still a little kid at heart in an adults body with a teenagers mind that has experienced things a little kid shouldn't have experienced. So I'm a mix of kid, teen and adult. Very confusing for me. I still love stuffed toys and I play with my brother, but I've been through a lot and it's changed me. I reckon if I hadn't gone through what I'm going through, I'd be that random 14 year old who really should be like 11 lol.

Woah I went off on a tangent sorry.

Grandy hi! The people I saw yesterday are beautiful people, they have kind souls and I love them all very much. Sometimes they can be a but much, but yesterday I was content being smothered with hugs and kind words.

Yes as i said before I'm still a kid at heart 🤗 Even though I've loved and I've lost and I'm depressed and anxious, there's still little kid Chloe inside somewhere.

I hope tomorrow is too, usually though when I have a 'high' day it only lasts for a day, unlike those horrid depressive episodes that last for 3-4 occasionally a week ☹️🙄

Hugs back to you Grandy (and starts 😊)

chloe

ps only 2 days until school aka stressville starts back 😭

Amy23
Community Member

Hey Chloe,

Don't let your anxiety win, next time you have to do a concert for dance and if it is a solo, try not to over-think, I understand it may be scary but have a bit of fun with it, even if you don't get a placing or come in the top 5 or whatever at least you went out there and had fun.

It seems like you have really supportive people in your life such as your mum

keep trying and don't give up

Amy, xx

Chloe_M
Valued Contributor
Valued Contributor

Hiya Amy,

ahhh I usually don't let my anxiety win, that's the thing. I can handle it, push it away. Except this time it controlled me. That's never happened before ☹️. The reason I compete is to get extra performance opportunities. It's just a bonus if I place.

hahah I won't give up. don't you give up either 😊

Chloe x

Amy23
Community Member

Hey Chloe,

Well I guess there's a first for everything.

I won't give up, although there have been times where I've given up all hope

Amy x

startingnew
Community Member

HI Chloe

how are you today?

Chloe_M
Valued Contributor
Valued Contributor
Hi there guys, missed your posts because I was out last night. I'm okay, yesterday was just a normal day, but as soon as I woke up this morning the anxiety just came on its very intense I know its first day back to school but I don't know why I'm so anxious.

james1
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hello Chloe,

First day back always seems to carry mixed feelings! I hope the day goes well.

When you get back, you may notice you have a new badge, "Valued Contributor"! Congratulations 🙂

Hi Chloe well done on becoming VC 😘

startingnew
Community Member

Oh also ita ok to be nervous going back to school. It might be abit because your friends wont be there till Thursday. Remember Thursdays not too far away though.

Hope todays a good one for you xo

Chloe_M
Valued Contributor
Valued Contributor

Hey guys,

Thanks for the congratulations! Can't believe i've gotten this far 🙂

Today has been okay so far, and am looking forward to Thursday.

Hope you all have a good day 😄

Chloe x