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A Common Story?

smallwolf
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I was reading a couple of the other introductions earlier and could see a lot of myself in their stories. I am the generally the one that helps everyone, the one that has all the answers, the one that puts on a brave face, when underneath it is all turning to crap.

My anxiety ... future telling, finding problems that don't exist and my mind goes over and over these again and again. I know these thoughts are irrational and emotive, and yet these thought don't leave my head. I know that I am loved by family, but I just don't feel it or don't deserve it. Yin and Yang... one part of my head thinks irrationally and the other (logical side) know that it should not be the case.

With my psychologist started a happy memories session yesterday. Going through it I ended in tears. As helpful as it was, it seemed like one of the few memories in my life that seems to get overtaken by every other problem in a sea of black and those happy memories fade away. (I work from home as a software developer and have always been logical, even if a glass half empty. There is little/no thanks in the work I do anymore.)

I am tired and despondent in feeling this way. I hope that I am not complaining too much. Just want to know that I am not alone.


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Ggrand
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Community Champion

Hello Tim,

Just called in to say that your last sentence on this page is really very heart warming...I hope you continue to get better slowly, it doesn’t matter how slowly or how long you take you are moving forward and that’s gold..

Love and hugs..

Grandy..

Guest8901
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Hi Tim,

Good to read an update from you. I havent been around for a couple of weeks, but was sorry to read that you had a particularly bad day last week. Triggers are the pits. I had a major one myself last week which put my PTSD symptoms into overdrive. Came from a totally unexpected source, which seems to make them that much worse. So the past week has been pretty bad for me too. But I am slowly trying to come back again. It takes time, a big load of patience and some self love and insight.

Good to hear that the venesections are having the desired result. An improvement in mood is a definite plus, and perhaps the anxiety may also reduce in time. Hope so.

I hope your full week next week goes well and produces desired results. I really do get the full week of appointments thing. Appointments for my husband are like that too, with every week requiring me to get him to a minimum of 3 medical specialist appointments, and sometimes up to as many as 6. Then there are my own apts I need to try to squeeze in there as well. Thankfully not too many for me, just my psych, which I insist on fitting in each week. Have to do at least one thing just for me!

Anyway Tim, I do continue to watch and listen to you, even if I am not posting much now. Like your last comment, that you seem to be getting 'better', albeit slowly. Good on you, you must be doing something right.

Amanda

smallwolf
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near the end of another week. Appointments this week were with the urologist, psychiatrist and psychologist.

Got results from last PSA blood test, and getting another blood test in Nov. I found something that indicated stress can inflate result, and by removing stress is one way of lowering your score. But I have also asked the specialist about links.

Appointment with psychiatrist was good. Will be giving an ultimatum about my position and changes needed else I am walking. I am a slow learner. Some would have left by now. In my head I agree, but my body does otherwise. The psychologist suggested it should be in contract form. We (psychologist and I) went through ways of dealing with unhelpful thoughts. One incident, three pages of text. But it was useful as we went through the last triggering incident, and we went 5 min overtime. (I am very aware of time and not wanting to cut into the next persons allocated time. Otherwise homework has not changed. I bought some rosary beads, cause I needed (?) them on Wed. I had bailed on lunch meeting and class that night. I wrote to the lecturer about my fears and she was very supportive. Oddly, that was the wrong thing to do; when I spoke with my psychologist, while my reaction was "natural", they would have made good distractions for me. Slow learner again.

Had another venesection yesterday. The guy who normally does it was away and had a lady to it. She is returning to work after a child, but formerly a surgeon and wickedly good with the needle. Did not feel it entering vein! Have her do it anytime.

Next Tue will be another blood test review and need to get blood test done today. I know what it is for, but cannot spell it (without google) but it is related to the heart.

All of the above brings me to this point. I think that STRESS can have a great impact on our body and minds that we lay people might not understand until it hits us. There are links relating stress with haemochromatosis, from the .org.au site. And suggested links with PSA. Waking up with fear, dread, of what one has to tackle each day cannot be good for the body. And yet, this is where I stand at the moment.

So if you were to ask me how I am my response would vary from "I dont really know" to "frustrated".

Tim

smallwolf
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Community Champion

Grandy and Mandy,

Thanks for your kind replies. Means so much to read those words of support.

Hello to everyone else who comes this way

Tim

Hi Wolfy always good to see you

You're kept busy with all your blood tests, hoping the one relating to hearts ok bud.

Contract sounds good Wolfy.
I too feel that way, aware of the time not wanting to cut into others. Also a slow learner

Agree stress is powerful on the mind and body, awful you feeling that way when you wake with things you need to do that day. I imagine the psychs told you about breathing techniques that can help with anxiety.

Just wanted to jump in quickly to say hi and let you know I'm always close by if not in words following your progress and listening.

Have a back out atm, pretty ragged from meds and for headache that seems to have settled again.

Take good care friend 🙂

Donte
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Thank you all for existing. A very weird thing to say, but that's honestly just my thought at the moment.

demonblaster
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Blue Voices Member

And to you Donte 🤗

I think your fabulous ☺

You too Wolfy

Sleep well good people 🕊

Thank you Donte. But living is better than existing 🙂

You sleep well also DB,

Tim


smallwolf
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Community Champion
Feeling good today so thought I would share the vibes. Woke up, watched video on YouTube. Did meditation. Checked email and filed items for Monday and not today. Reviewing first assessment for diploma before submitting. Downloaded material for second subject. haiku poem was about a purple orchid (beauty) at Mum's place. For today things are good. Take these moments whenever I can.

I'm glad you woke up feeling good today Tim, good days are good for the soul 🙂

I woke up feeling "OK" too, albeit sore from gardening yesterday, but still not down and out. I get to watch my footy team play today (West Coast) and hopefully they win and make the grand final.

My week off from uni work is coming to an end, so we'll see how I feel on Monday, when I start all the revision! I got my exam schedule yesterday and had a bit of a freak out about that last night. They happen in November, so I told myself I'm not allowed to freak out proper until 1.11!!

I hope your family are well 🙂