It was about 6 weeks ago I lost my father. How did this unfold? Well first of all on a Thursday night, 6th May , my mother and myself were watching T.V when my sister, who was at work, got a call from the nurses from his nursing home and has said to us he will go into hospital tonight. This was due to his personality changed recently, 2 weeks after, he had a little cold, stopped talking and was eating properly. the next day my mother and I went to see him in the morning when he was in hospital, the doctors and nurses were looking after him, a few minutes later the doctor looking after him told us they were monitoring and taking tests to see if something was wrong. then they next few days his results came back and she, the doctor, said to us he had pneumonia, kidney failure and had trouble swallowing food and water.
He was in hospital for 8 days, most of my family and family friends came over to visit him. Mind you he was completely blind so he couldn't see, he would always sleep and move around, make noises, he was bed ridden. 4 Days in our immediate family decided to take him off the medication and let him go to comfort care. Then on the 13th May he passed away at 10.30am. It was another tough week after his death we arranged a Lao traditional Funeral wake. which took a few days until the funeral.
It was hard losing him, my mother, sister, myself and my brothers family were having a hard time dealing with the loss of our father. I am still having trouble accepting it as I have severe depression, and his death made it worse I don't want to go out or talk to my friends. My father was 71 years, had diabetes, suffered 2 strokes and survived he also drank a lot of alcohol before becoming very ill and going to the nursing home. I dream about him most nights and I don't know how to handle it. It is strange not to go visit him at the nursing home and bring him treats or take him to his appointments.
