Grief of a grandmother in hard times

[Autismgirl]

Hey,

im new to this forum community. August 28 11:20pm my world changed forever. My Nan, my best friend passed away peacefully with pop and me by her side. She was 90 years old and was very sick near the end, she lasted 5 days of being unconscious until she passed away, those five days were tough sitting by her side watched her suffer and then watched her peacefully pass away which that moment was so special I will be forever grateful for. Nan and I had a very special bond. One like no other. We became even more close when Nan lost her daughter in January of 2016 after a short illness with brain cancer. My Aunty dying really hit nan hard which would to anyone.

anyway, this past week without nan have been extremely hard, I have cried, got angry and just been miserable and hurting. I’m after some advice that has helped in the early stages of grieving.

thanks

K 😊

[Summer Rose]

Hi Autismgirl

Welcome to the bb forum and thank you for sharing your story. I am very sorry for your loss.

It is so nice that you and pop were with nan when she passed. She didn't go on alone, she took all that love with her.

Unfortunately the price we all pay for great love is deep grief when we lose someone. Everybody grieves differently and there is no right or wrong but here are a few ideas for you to consider.

Talk to your nan. It's perfectly okay to talk to the dead and a lot of people do this to cope with grief. I lost my mum in Feb this year and I've put a large photo of her in my lounge room and I talk to her often.

I also talk about her with my husband and children. We share happy memories and laughter and it helps to lessen the pain. Perhaps it would help to visit pop and talk and lean on each other.

You might also want to start a journal, where you can write down happy memories and all the things you want to remember about nan. Add some photos if you like and you can spend time with nan by working on your journal.

I know it's really hard right now. Give yourself time. Be kind to yourself. Take it one day at a time.

Kind thoughts to you