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Hi Samantha,
Welcome, and thank you for sharing your story. I am truly sorry for your loss, and for the heartbreaking circumstances that you have had to endure.
I'm hoping in time you will find the comfort that your son would wish for you. Losing a child at any age is an absolute tragedy. You certainly have our support here.
I can completely understand the anger, having experienced loss myself, I know all too well what this phase of the grieving process is like. I know you want to seek justice for what happened to your son, I just wanted to ask if there is a time limit on this?
I wonder whether, as difficult as it sounds, you need to focus on you first? I'm thinking that the processes that you are going through might be keeping you trapped in this anger phase, and therefore not letting you experience the entire grieving process. Sadly, in order to heal you need to go through all the steps.
Having some counselling will hopefully help, do you have to go through the hospital? Or could you just get a mental health plan from your GP and go to a Psychologist who specialises in this field? I'm guessing that waiting for treatment is probably not helping.
Once you have worked on you then you can focus on rebuilding your relationship. It might also be worthwhile for your partner to get some therapy - it could even be something you do together. No doubt the anger is detrimental to your communication with one another. How does your partner feel about what has happened to you both?
Once you are both stronger perhaps then you can focus on the legalities of your situation. When your son was alive all he wished for was a mummy and daddy that loved one another and loved him. I'm sure that's exactly what he would still want now.
I know it's really difficult to let go, and perhaps the proceedings feel like they are letting you hold on, but in time I think you will realise that what's most important is you, your husband, and the opportunity to celebrate the little life that your baby had.
There are no words that will take away your pain, only time will heal the gaping hole in your heart. I hope though that you will continue to post here so that you feel supported by so many people who really do care.
AGrace