Advice needed

[mrob]

Hello all my name is Mark and I have posted here before but I have a question

I have lost 4 family members in the last four years and I am still struggling so bad with dealing with the loss

I have been seeing a Psychologist but I feel that I am just going around in circles and I tend to feel worse off

I have spoken to a friend and they have said a group environment where there are other people dealing with this may be a better option

Any advice or help will be greatly and gladly accepted

Thanking you Mark

[Ggrand]

Hello Mark,

A warm welcome back to the forums..

I am deeply sorry that you have lost 4 family members in 4 years..That would be so devastatingly hard to cope with..

Theirs no time limit on our grieving...

Being in a group atmosphere may help you..or it may not..It’s something I feel that you must give it a try to see how you feel..Being with people who have gone through a love ones passing and talking openly about their feelings, thoughts and how they’re managing their own grief might give you a few different ideas on coping with your losses..more then a one on one with your psychologist....

Everyone grieves different and for different lengths of time..Their is no right or wrong way to grieve...nor a time limit...

I am not much help but wanted to extend my hand in support for you, going through a very hard and sad time..

Maybe if you google group therapy for grieving in your local area you might find some groups that you could try..Maybe your local council could help you find groups in the area as well..

Wishing you all the best and my deepest condolences...

My kindest and caring thoughts Dear Mark..

Grandy..

[mrob]

Just a reply helps and I will take your advice and I honestly appreciate your positivity and kindness and thank you

[smallwolf]

Hi.

Whether you would be better in a group environment is something you would only work out by trying. I am also sorry to hear of the losses you have had to deal with in recent years.

Grandy is right about there being no time line when it comes to grief and loss. And having one a year would be very difficult for some people.

I noticed you said in your initial post that you feel the sessions with your psychologist are going around in circles. Can I ask if you have spoken with your psychologist about this? Have there been things suggested that did not work out for you?

I am not trying to make you do one thing or another re a support group vs the psychologist. The psychologist and you work as a team to work as a team to find a path that works for you. This can also mean that if things are not working for you, then you can chat with them about this. There have been times when I have had that chat with my psychologist.

I hope some of this makes sense. And please be kind to yourself.

Peace to you

Tim

[sunnyl20]

Hi Mark,

I am so sorry to hear about what you have experienced over the last few years. That is awful.

I agree with smallwolf - if you feel able, I would really encourage you to let your psychologist know that you are not getting much benefit from sessions and feeling stuck going around in circles. With this in mind, they may be able to help change track or help you find what you need from sessions. If the sessions are tending to leave you feeling worse off, maybe it is worth having a short break or trying something different like group therapy. I'm sorry I can't be of much assistance. Take care & please feel free to reach out again.

[pl515p1]

Hey Mark, I am sorry for your continued loss.

I too feel that I need to find a group session with people who have been through what I have.

No matter how much people surrounding us care, or try to help, no one can truly feel what is inside unless they too have experienced it, at least in my opinion.
I think it is the sense of community that would be of the most benefit, they say it takes a village to raise a child, and we are all the child of someone, so to me a group session would be a very welcome and healing meeting.

Because of COVID I guess much of these things have gone to Zoom and other online platforms, but nothing can replace the human presence and bonds that hold us.

I hope to find a support group that can provide me with a sense of humanity and community soon, and I hope that you find what you need to comfort you and provide support for you on this journey too.

Take care.