That Sinking Feeling

[OhmeOhmy]

I have been doing well for just over 12 months now but tonight I'm scared because I have that sinking feeling coming over me. I feel like I'm spiraling and that I'm going to mess everything up. It's like I'm collapsing under the weight of everything. Maybe tomorrow will be a better day. 

[Lost_Girl]

Hi Ohmeohmy,

I'm glad you came here to express how you feel. I believe tomorrow will be a better day. It already is because now you're not facing this alone.

This is a safe place where you can talk about the weight you feel if you like. There are many wonderful and kind people here to help you through this low patch.

You mention you've been good for 12 months. Did you see a GP previously? Perhaps going along and having a chat with them might help too. I find you can never have too much support when you need it most.

I hope you can get a little rest tonight. Sleep can do wonders. I hope to hear from you soon.

Here for you,

Carol

[geoff]

dear OhmeOhmy, you have to remember that once we have had depression and even overcome it, it won't stop recurring thoughts or by having a relapse from happening.
We never know when this could happen, although there maybe circumstances that may cause it, no different to what I have had to experience myself, it's something all of us dread, but when this does happen we have to try and believe that it will pass, but this can only happen if we realise that it will go away.
When I have a relapse I know that it won't last and that within a couple of weeks I'll be back to how I was before. I really hope that this can happen for you, and would love to hear back from you. Geoff.

[Guest_2350]

Dear OhmeOhmy,

please remember that set-backs, relapses or whatever you want to call it are part of it.

I know you have done ACT and you found benefit in it. What has helped you when you were feeling like this before? Try to play around with some of the ideas. I wish I could say more, but I am only at the beginning of ACT.

I always try to remember that sometimes it's ok if the only thing I did today was breathe. Not like telling myself that consciously in the moment, but just remembering that on really bad days, all I have to do is breathe. That takes a weight of my shoulders and makes me understand that I don't always have to do all my helpful behaviours that I learn, especially when I don't have the energy.

For difficult events at work or social I try to tell myself "This too shall pass". I don't know what your plans are for Easter, but I can imagine that some people have quite some pressure on them, with kids and family wanting attention, entertainment and expectations on us can be high. I often count the hours during social gatherings and watch the time go by (sometimes ever so slowly) but I remember that this too shall pass.

I had a pretty bad week thinking about some of the events and how my feelings were all over the place. I tried to think about accepting it, but yesterday I forced myself to some old coping strategies, not the bad ones, but the ones where I make my miserable self go out and be the miserable face in the crowd, watching all the happy people around me... Well it worked. By evening I was that exhausted that I actually slept most of the night. All I wanted yesterday was uninterrupted distraction, business, neverminding if I hated myself for not enjoying myself.

OhmeOhmy I hope you feel a little bit better today and please let me know how you get on.

Take care, Yggy