Suggestions on opening up to your mother?

[Countrymusicgirl]

So I'm depressed and anxious been like this for about 4 years now.

My psychologist has suggested on talking to my mother about it, and how I feel about her and what she's done to me in the past and now.

One thing is I can't. I can't open up to her because I'm afraid she will shut me down. Any suggestions on how I should go 'hey mum I'm depressed, anxious, on meds, thanks for not believing me, thanks for not being there'

[Guest_128]

Hey,

I would like to just hold you tight!

its a bit tricky not knowing the whole story and with that do you know your mums whole story,why and how she reacts may not actually be directed at you.

What I find to be very helpful is to start a book, ask a question,then put it in a draw next to her bed,or in the letter box, she answers and then asks you a question and so on.

Sometimes we never get answers or reconciliation,

we just have to let go,

As a mother, I will say,I'm sure your mum has hidden pain and stories.

Dory

[blondguy]

Hi Countrymusicgirl

Dory has made a great post especially about just a basic A4 page letting her know whats on your mind.

Ive been on meds for 21 years and eventually told my mum and she was fine despite the rocky childhood I had.

Its just my humble opinion but I would be leaving a non formal A4 in her letterbox and Dory mentioned

You have everything to gain and nothing to lose Countrymusicgirl 🙂

you are not alone

My kind thoughts

Paul

[Sophie_M]

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