Low mood not sure why

[happyannie]

Hi

Im having a really bad day today my mood is so low and my thoughts are all over the place.

Ive also started taking meds at a different time of the day, not sure if thats anything to do with my being extremely depressed.

Sometimes we have triggers that can upset us and our moods,but I cannot think of anything, I feel like Im losing the fight. I have a beautiful family, great medical support, I feel like I should be doing better than I am.

Any advice would be so helpful, thanx BB for letting me vent.

Thanx

Annie

[Winnie_the_Pooh]

Hi Annie,

i know those days like the back of my hand. I understand how frustrating it can be. I'm sure you've heard all the usual advice like eating right, exercise, getting fresh air and speaking to professionals etc. the best advice I have ever been given is just accept that some days you're just gonna have a bad day. And that's ok.

Just the other day for example I was feeling so wrong so I decided to be proactive and pushed myself to get up and shower and go meet someone for a coffee to be social. I went for a long semi strenuous walk and then even took myself to the zoo (my favourite place) and spent over an hour with just the elephants and several more with the other animals. I still couldn't shake the wrong feeling however and in the end I took myself home and just lay on the couch. At the time I was angry and upset feeling like I had given up until I remembered that advice I was once given.

That was a bad day and sometimes I'm going to have them. I eventually accepted that maybe I just needed that day in particular off.

I know we can't always choose when we have those days and it's not always ideal when our bodies and minds decide 'nup, not today' which can be so frustrating. But when we can I think it's important to be gentle with ourselves.

Forget about that assignment, those dishes and the washing for just that afternoon. Put your feet up and watch that Disney film.

Forgetting our responsibilities and worries is easier said than done, I know but it takes practise. I'm still working on it.

I've also found my time board super helpful. I'm a very proactive person. I understand the importance of talking to professionals but I feel better with my progress when I can actually DO something physical. I made my own white board with the days of the week and the hours of the day so I can schedule 'me time' More often and also take note of what I have accomplished that day. Even if it is only getting up and washing my hair because I can recognise how far I've come from when I couldn't even do that.

These forums are the best for me getting my thoughts out there. Like a diary that talks back so I guess I feel like my thoughts and worries are more validated even if they go I without replies because it's out there for someone to see. Makes me feel safer in a way I guess

Hope this advice helps.

Xx Winnie the Pooh 🙂

[happyannie]

Thank you winnie the pooh, what you just wrote was amazing.

Ive got some things to think about, and your advice was really helpful, I like the whiteboard idea, sounds great.

Thanx Winnie the Pooh for taking the time to reply and for your advice.

Take Care

Annie

[blondguy]

Hi Annie

We havent spoken for a while. Its really good to see you again 🙂

Im sorry that you are feeling this bad. Not a nice place to be in. I remember those dark days

If you are on AD's they need to be taken roughly at the same time.

Winnie The Pooh has great advice above which you have read and good on you!

Can I ask how frequent your counseling is happening? It seems to be a great way to heal more effectively.

The meds can also take a while to work properly too. I dont know how long its been but they need time to kick in.

Fighting these awful symptoms usually makes them worse. 'Accepting' the unpleasant feelings without struggling is another great way to part these dark clouds that are above you.

thanks Annie for posting 🙂

my kind thoughts

Paul

[happyannie]

Hi Paul

Im having counselling every fortnight, which really helps, just not at the moment.

Its only been a week since I changed the time of my meds. I think Ive got to be patient and give it time.

Thanx for your advice and kind words

Annie

[blondguy]

Hi Annie

Thanks for posting back. Always good to see you 🙂

Im on meds too and the early days can be a real pain, I remember

you know we are here for you Annie

keep gently occupied and let time pass. You will have only the benefits to gain

Have a good week too!

My Best

Paul

[pawsy]

Hi Annie,

I get that feeling of 'i should be doing better than i am' too ... i try to focus on the good things, recent moments when i have been brave, capable, connected. even if they're just tiny things like posting on here, making sure the cat gets his favourite food, messaging friends, going for a walk. i also sometimes think about plants. how it takes them a while to grow. they grow slowly and quietly. Watching my fern which nearly died over winter grow back over summer has been comforting to me. Slowly and quietly every day -- you can hardly notice it--but after six months it's bright green and shining and happy. i hope we are the same. thinking of you today, hope it feels better for you. from pawsy x

[happyannie]

Thank you pawsy really appreciate your kind words I agree with you about plants I had a peace lily that I thought had died so I moved it to another place in the garden and Ive been able to watch it come back to life, what a good feeling it was.

I hope you have a great day thanx again

Annie

[happyannie]

Hi

I just needed to vent and put my thoughts in writing, Im having a really bad day well to be honest I've been having a bad time for awhile now. Im just so depressed and nothing is helping at the moment. I have a dark cloud hanging over me and it just will not leave me.

This is a bad time of the year for me. You see 8 years ago in August I lost my beautiful Mum, 7 years ago in July I lost my brother then 11 months later in June I lost my beautiful Dad. I think about them constantly but their anniversarys are always tough. I still havent grieved for them. I just cant seem to move forwards, not a day goes by that I dont think about them, I was with them when they passed away and losing them all so close together really affected me.

I do my exercises take my meds, do my mindfulness but at the moment nothings working.

Thanx BB for letting my feelings out.

Annie

[happyannie]

Hi I just wanted to vent having a really bad time lately especially the last month. My mood is so down and depressed the only thing keeping me going at the moment is the love of my husband and daughter. I feel at times that this world is just to hard to live in. I practice mindfullness and controlled breathing but even that doesnt seem to be giving me much peace. Life can be overwhelming. I also write in my journal on a daily basis, which I find very calming, its great to write things down, sometimes I think its better than therapy.

I just keep telling myself that there is people worse off than me, but thats hard to do sometimes especially when Im in this type of depressive stage. I would love to wake up one day and be happy with myself my life my being.

Anyway thanks for listening BB

Annie