Lost

[Snoggle]

Hi I'm new here and not sure if this is where i should post it or not, but i feel lost, I'm not sure where i belong. I'm a father of three gorgeous girls and a wife of 12yrs.

I recently had a bad time at work, getting picked on as a manager could never do the right thing, was always in trouble, no friends, everyone stabbed me in the back etc. I left to join Bunnings and for 4 months was good then i got fired for a minor incident. Due to no income i was forced to return to my old job, feeling like i let my family down so had to do the right thing and earn an income( sole income earner).

I thought i was mentally tough and could handle it but recently I've just been feeling like I'm lost, nothing goes the way i want it to, I'm getting emotional (admittedly I've had a couple of drinks). I feel like i just want to be alone for a while with no one around. I just can't be bothered with people at the moment even my wife and kids, it's making me angry and frustrated to be around others.

Some days are ok and in general work has been good considering, but i just can't help feeling lost. I'm not sure what to do, I've always been a loner, able to entertain myself, so I'm not sure if it's just a mood or something more.

Just hoping to get some answers.

Thanks

Aaron

[BballJ]

Hi Aaron,

Firstly welcome to the forums. Weather you know it or not, you have done the right thing posting here, this place has helped me heaps so i'm hoping it can help you in someway.

It sounds like there is a lot of pressure on you at work and at home, being the sole income earner, so I can only imagine the stress you are under. Like you, i have always been a bit of a loner and able to entertain myself, but its always nice to talk to people outside of your immediate family, do you have any people outside of your family you can turn too? These forums however are perfect just to talk to people and that's why i wanted to post, just wanted you to know i read your story and wanted to reply to let you know i'm here to talk about whatever.

You clearly love your family and are doing what you have to do to support them, but it's always hard when you don't have a good work place, have you tried looking for another job?

Just want to point out as well for your reference, if you ever want to talk to someone, please contact the Beyond Blue helpline on 1300 22 4636 - they are 24/7 and are there when you just want to talk. I know you said being around people is frustrating you but sometimes talking to a stranger, can feel good and help.

Please feel free to post back as much as you wish.

My best for you

Jay

[Quiettall]

Hi Aaron

I sympathise with you. Losing your job is a real blow to the emotions and ego when you are the breadwinner, even if you are not. I understand you feeling like being on your own. I sometimes have felt that way. It is good to escape and spend time looking after the child within you. However, it is important to not cut yourself off too much from others, as interaction with others help develop a clearer sense of broader perspective, rather than one which is totally self- focussed.

I have struggled with similar feelings after being fired, retrenched, or more recently, returning from an overseas posting where I felt more valued than I do at home. However, I am determined to address thee issues by taking each day at a time and making at least an effort to reach out on small matters to start with and these will grow as I redevelop confidence and the ability and trust to open up more with those around me.

Take care Aaron and feel free to continue to share as this helps the healing process.

Cheers

Peter