Lost partner suddenly to cancer

[Puddles1974]

I recently lost my partner suddenly to cancer. Multiple Myeloma. He was diagnosed July 2022. He was given 10-15 years to live. 7 months later he passed away. So unexpected and sudden. We weren't told it was aggressive or found in his blood until December. He did stem cell transplant, that failed. Tried another form of chemo. That too failed. Then did high pace chemo. He got pneumonia in hospital and passed away.   Not coping at all. Depression has kicked in quite bad. I've suffered anxiety for the last few years but his death has really broken me. 

[Sophie_M]

Hi Puddles1974,  Thank you for sharing this. We’re sorry to hear that you’ve so recently and suddenly lost your partner. It may be quite hard to express what you’re feeling, at the moment, but please know you’ve taken a really brave and commendable step in sharing here.   Are you connected with any bereavement or mental health support currently? This is obviously an incredibly painful time, and it’s really important you and your family are supported through it. In case it's useful you can find advice and directories on the Beyond Blue website here. We'd highly recommend talking to Griefline, on 1300 845 745 (6am to midnight AEST every day).   Please know that you're not alone with this, you can call the Beyond Blue helpline at any time, on 1300 22 4636. They can help you talk this through and will also be able to help you plan what's next so that you have that support in place.  We hope you're able to be kind to yourself through this, as you've been so kind in sharing your experience here. You never know how your story might help someone else, so do feel free to share more if you're comfortable to. We hope you can find some comfort and understanding on the forums, where other community members might be able to relate to what you’re going through.   Kind regards,   Sophie M  

[james1]

Hello Puddles,

I am so sorry to hear you've lost your partner, and in such a sudden way. It sounds devastating, and shocking since the initial prognosis was supposed to be longer. I imagine it must be so painful for you right now and I understand you feel like you're not coping at all. I hope you have others around you, whether friends or family, to offer their love and care as you grieve. The beyondblue community is here as well if you need some place to share the absolutely awful pain it sounds like you are feeling right now.

James