Lost my job

[Missberri]

Hi everyone,

I'm posting because I pretty much lost my job today and I feel awful.. I have only been working in this job for just over 4 months and I found it very difficult from the get go. I wanted to leave as soon as I started, but decided to stick it out as I thought things may improve.. my boss has been really really strict on me. She knows it is my first proper job after finishing uni, but there were a lot of things she expected me to know and pick up straight away, and unfortunately I I guess am not smart enough to do these things and I haven't lived up to her expectations..

I want to apply for a new job now, but my confidence is so hurt that I don't think I'm good enough to work at any job.. I tried really hard so many times to do the work I was asked to do, but I feel I just can't.. I'm really worried that this is going to keep happening to me in the work place and every employer is just going to think I'm a hopeless case.. I really want to improve, but maybe there is just something wrong with me 😕 I just have no idea where to go from here and I am really really worried about my career and what I'm doing with my life.. I just wish things were simpler and that what I can do would be good enough 😕

[blondguy]

Hello Missberri

Im sorry that you have lost your job 😞 That is an awful feeling especially just after Uni as well

Your boss was lucky to have you. Anyone that has the courage to jump on the forums and vent like you have is a legend. I have two close friends that are scared to post on here as they dont have your high level of self esteem

Firstly....There is nothing wrong with you at all......you dont have to have an idea where to go from here. That is only high expectations

You mentioned " I wanted to leave as soon as I started"......There is also nothing wrong with feeling this way either. I have also felt the same too when I started a job

Can I ask you why you wanted to leave as soon as you started? (if thats okay of course)

This wont keep happening in your life. Its already the past. I have been in human resources for years and you would be an asset to any company you choose to work for

I hope you can post back when convenient for you Missberri......You are amazing

My kind thoughts

Paul

[Missberri]

Hi Paul,

thanks so much for your response.

I wanted to leave from the beginning I guess because the job felt like too much for me.. and it never seemed like a good fit. There were only 2 of us in the company so there's been a lot of new tasks and things I have had to do that I've never done before - and I've been expected to learn them very quickly and all at once. My boss has helped me a lot but I think she got sick of helping me so she wanted me to leave. I guess I just wasn't expecting so much pressure and responsibility for my first job but I definitely failed and it feels horrible.

I will try my best to keep my head up. But I've learned maybe this industry isn't for me and I am struggling with my confidence right now.. I think next time I'll have to work harder and focus more because I don't want this to happen to again 😕

Thanks again for your help

[Spl spl]

Hey Missberri,

Only 2 people? Wow and you still kept at it- that's a lot better than what many others would have done in that situation. It's okay, being able to get everything right at the first try without any practice is pretty much humanely impossible. I don't know what your job was or who your boss is, but from the sound of it I don't think that was an accurate representation of that entire industry. If you want to change your focus go for it, still sometimes you get an incredible amount of responsibility put on your shoulders and it's only once you go for another job you get a wider scope you realize what you were actually doing and what level of skill you were really doing it at.

I urge you not to hold this experience against yourself, you are more than good enough. It's a huge blow of confidence, but that doesn't mean you can't do better in the future. It's in the past, basically. It gave you experience for you to use in the future, no matter how well you think you went at it. There's nothing wrong with feeling hopeless about it, and it's natural to. Don't belittle yourself over it, keep on walking forward to your goal, whether its going for another job in that industry or trying something completely different.

Best of luck,

Spl

[Missberri]

Hi Spl

Thanks a lot for your reply it really helps. Yeah you're probably right that it's not the best representation of my industry but something in my gut does tell me I'm in the wrong industry.. it's almost like im a square trying to fit into a circle or something that's how it feels. It's going to be hard changing what I'm doing now after already finishing my degree, but I just want to do something that makes me happy. My depression is definitely starting to sink in now 😕

Thank you though I really appreciate how helpful everyone on this site is it means so much!

[Guest_4]

Don't mind me being super blunt, but not passing a probationary period at any company is no big deal. All it means is that your way and their way of doing things aren't aligned.

Yes it's an inconvenience - you now have to start job hunting again, but your next opportunity might give you so much success that you'll be over-the-moon that this job didn't "work out" otherwise you'd still be stuck there, which would be the biggest inconvenience of all! Even if the same thing happens at the next job, it still doesn't matter.

Jobs/companies/businesses are just a process and don't reflect you or your abilities. You'll realise this.

I'm 35 and have been through 20 jobs. I've been told to my face "sorry Nicholas you're just not good at the job". My reaction was "ok" and I went home and applied for other jobs like water of a duck's back. I actually did say that and my boss had no idea how to react, then I got my things and walked out. It's just a process, but because of social conditioning we take it personally - don't let that happen.

[Missberri]

Hi Nicholas,

thank you! It’s nice to know that others have gone through the same thing and moved on from it!

yeah I’m not letting it bother me too much now at first I was really shaken but I’m happy I know more what I want to do and want I don’t want to do so I think it’s turned out to be a positive in the end 😊