Lost family

[Scared1]

HI. I don't really know what to say. I have isolated and have no living family. And now I just lost interest in anything. Any friends are long gone. Real friends anyway. I know I have things to attend to but just can't face the world. Struggle to get out of bed. Have no self esteem or confidence. Is there somewhere I can connect or talk to as I have no idea and am getting worse I know. Does anyone else experience this and get thru it all. I know I'm rambling. There is just so much pain and lonelyness since my mum who I nursed for yrs passed away. I lost contact with everyone. Hence now isolation and loneliness come with not wanting to get up and function. Im not eating or sleeping. I'm hiding from life and yet need to get things done or I'll end up homeless.

I'll stop rambling. Please is there anyone who knows where I can get help or hear of positive outcomes

[Jackson85]

Hi Scared1,

Firstly, yes, there are definitely positive outcomes! I'm in no way qualified to diagnose, but the way you describe your lack of motivation, eating and sleeping irregularities, and feelings of loneliness, are sometimes indications of feeling depressed. I'm so sorry that you feel so isolated after losing your mum, and I'm really glad you posted on here. There are so many people on these forums who are in a similar situation to yourself, so not only are you not alone, but we're all here to listen and chat about how you're doing.

In addition to chatting on here, it might be worth trying to chat to a psychologist if you're up to it? Any GP will help you put together a mental healthcare plan, and you'll get a bunch of sessions with decent medicare rebates. Psychologists are so familiar with these feelings, you might be surprised how quickly they can help. So that would be my recommendation for a next step, if you feel like it's something you are interested in and are feeling up to it.

Until then, feel free to chat on here with me, or on the other Beyond Blue forums where people share their experience with depression and loneliness.

Hang in there,

Jackson85

[Devine09]

Hi Sared1 I would just like to say of the bat that I’m not a professional however I have been a peer support worker and I really think you need to get some help with a good GP. The other thing I wanted to mention is to give yourself a break. For a long time your purpose was to nurse your mother. Now that you have lost your Mother you have also lost your purpose. You need to find something that you use to love before all this happened that you can put you energy into. Something to look forward to. Now I know that this is easier said than done when you can’t even get out of bed but if you think about what you would like your new purpose to be and make small steps to get there it is a lot easier. For an example I wanted to be a photographer a massive goal considering I could leave the house or even get up sometimes. But I started to think that if I had a goal every day I could make it bigger as I went. The first day I made excuses why I couldn’t get out of bed eg no energy, why bother etc. which went on until day 4 when I said my first goal is not to make excuse and sit outside for 10minutes. I did it and something funny happened- I smiled - why didn’t I do this before. Now every day when I get up I make a cuppa and sit outside with it and decide what to do with my day. I now do photography and even sell it. I still have hard days and allow myself to have the occasional day resting but I make sure this is only for one day and no more. I hope this helps you - it will get better but it is up to you, with support, to make the tiny steps xx