Depressed and Lonely Because Of My Height

[Nawa21]

I understand that this may not be a post you would read usually but I have the exact same issue because I feel that it’s harder to explain this feeling when there isn’t many relatable posts to feel better about.

Im young and a very career driven individual who always hides the real feelings of being short. I always tend to act normal by distracting myself but the real story is that I’m tired of being alone.

I’m about 5,1 and 23 years old. it’s imposible to find a significant other because, as we always see in social media “girls love tall guys”.

I treat and respect women well always because they always have me as that work best friend but it’s never more than that.

To me, my height makes me unattractive to women. I feel that a women wouldn’t want to be seen with a shorter man. Not being able to find someone to care about puts me to a very lonely situation that always is depressing to me.

I’ve accepted the fact that I’m short and tried to move on but it’s always at the back of my head bothering me, more than it should.

Im constantly wishing that I was reborn as the same person but taller. The feeling of Being lonely is something that I’m tired of feeling. Those dream of having a perfect life to share with someone else has become a dream that’s impossible to have.

I only wish to have a happier life!

[Peppermintbach]

Hi Nawa,

I hope it’s okay if I extend a caring welcome to you to the forums...

I feel that your feelings about your height, or perhaps more specifically, norms about height in relation to conventional male “attractiveness” has really (understandably) affected your self esteem and mood...

The loneliness you described sounds debilitating...all you wish is for someone to care about you, as you said. But you have doubts about finding this person, and those fears must really hurt....

I don’t feel that I have any wisdom to impart but I’m here to gently support and hear you out...I hope that’s okay with you. You’re most welcome to continue writing; you can vent, express feelings, etc.

It would be lovely to get to know you a little better. That said, there’s no pressure...

Kind and warm thoughts

Pepper

[quirkywords]

Nawa,

I too want to welcome you the forum.

I understand how you feel frustrated and lonely and I appreciate that you reached out by writing your first post.

How do you imagine your life may change if you were taller.?

There are shorter and taller people than you who will relate to what you write.

If someone is only attracted to another person because of their height that is very shallow and the relationship will probably not last.

You are clever and respectful and are a good friend. these are qualities that will make you attractive to women.

Do you have interests like books, sport, fitness, hobbies, music etc ? May you could join a group of people with similar interest.

Thanks again for sharing your thoughts.

Quirky

[kanga_brumby]

Nawa welcome from another shortie about the same height as yourself.

There is an heap of old sayings with people I hang out with. It's not height that maketh the man but the man that maketh the height. I have had in the past women queing up to be with me All I ever Did was showed respect to them and heaps of good clean fun Things I could easily tell Granmar about. Without her blowing a gasket. So why rush it you will find someone

Kanga

[Devine09]

I feel like I have the female version to your problem- I am very tall. 6’1! I had troubles all my life with relationships- men don’t like women to be taller than them it seems. I have come to learn over many many years that the first thing to do is to be the best person you can be and be proud of it. You will be surprised at how attractive confidence is. Second thing is have some fun. Go out with your friends and just have fun. They love you just as you are. This is how I found my fantastic 5’9 man who married me 17 years ago and I am really happy with. You are young - this is the time for fun and enjoyment, the rest will happen when you least expect it.