lost control of life

[KatK24]

I've currently dropped out of uni, have no idea what i am doing. I feel like my depression is getting worse and taking over my life, and im just feeling so hopeless, like i'll never get over this

[Nervybella]

Hi Kat

firstly, good on you for posting here- it's not always easy. Rest assured this is a safe place, I've found it's helped me so much in the past.

i too dropped out of uni, I took a couple of months of just being at home, not doing much to really think about what I wanted in life. Sometimes you really need to take the time to give yourself some space and think things through.

This could also be the perfect time to seek some professional help if you haven't done so already. I know it can be scary going to see a professional, but it truly will help you in the long run.

Please don't hesitate to post here again, we are always here to talk

Bella 🙂

[BballJ]

Hi KatK24,

Firstly, welcome to the forums. Well done for reaching out for help, it is never easy but a great first step.

I am sorry to read what you are going through, it is so hard to know what we exactly want to do in life and I think many people have dropped out of uni to pursue other options but knowing what you want to do is the hard part, I have been there as well. May I ask, did you feel you had depression prior to starting uni or has it all developed apart of it and a general feeling of being lost?

Like Nervybella suggested maybe speaking to your local GP about how you are feeling, they may recommend you to a psychologist just so you can speak to a trained professional about everything and overall just help how you are feeling.

Please, post back as much as you like, we are always happy to talk.

My best for you,

Jay

[geoff]

hi KatK24, when people finish year 12 their ideal thought is to go to uni get a degree and then a job in that field, but it doesn't happen that way all the time, and so many people don't like going to uni for many different reasons, and there's nothing wrong with pulling out of uni, but unfortunately people can take this as a failing, but no, it's certainly not, you have other inspirations or depression maybe taking control, both of these have different meanings.
However, now you are feeling as though depression has taken its grip on you and I'm so sorry this has happened, it's one of the most annoying curses that we have to struggle with as it starts to take control over us.
You can always go back to uni at a later date, but now it's time to look after yourself and this means you do need to see your doctor for starters.
When anyone has depression they never believe they will ever get better, that's how strong this illness is, but there is light at the end of the tunnel, hard to believe, but believe me it's true, but it may take time, because everyone is different and there's no general rule here.
Your doctor may refer you to a psychologist, so ask them about the mental health plan, this entitles you to 10 free visits, but if you have to wait a few weeks, you can also contact Reachout, depending on your age or even SANE who will offer counselling, but please try not to wait until something is done, make contact so that help can begin. Geoff.

[the_phoenix_prophet]

Hey KatK24,

I was in a similar position to you about a year and a bit ago. I want to try and walk it through logically with you so you can see where these feelings are coming from.

Dropping out of uni was probably the right thing to do, as your heart probably wasn't in what you were doing. And once you have a lot of time on your hands and lots of options but no direction, it can be very overwhelming. You start to feel like you have no purpose, and that can lead to a negative thought pattern which resonates and spirals down.

Take your time, there's no rush to find out what you want to do. Whatever you love doing, do it as much as you can. Find your purpose, and whatever you feel is the right path for you - do it. If you feel your heart is in it, follow it.

I'd recommend trying to find a part time job thats relatively easy, as to keep you occupied while your are on your search.

Hope it helps.

the phoenix prophet

[KatK24]

Thanks so much for replying wasn't expecting it at all. I've struggled a lot with my mental health for a while now it only seems to be getting worse really, ive tried seeing a psychologist and im currently seeing a psychiatrist, i find it really hard to be open and honest with these professionals and i often sugar coat how im feeling.

[KatK24]

Hi Geoff thankyou for your reply! im on anti-depressants and i see a psychiatrist but it just does not seem to be working. for the past 4 years i go through patches of depression and then i seem to get things together for a while and im feeling positive and motivated and then it just goes back and often feel even worse. i know the brain isn't a perfect organ but i wish someone could press a button and i'f feel normal

[BballJ]

Hi KatK24,

I understand what you are saying, I think one thing I have learnt after dealing with mental health and speaking to people who also have dealt with it is that finding the right psychologist and even psychiatrist is tough, you need to find someone you fully connect with, I think you know when you connect when you feel you can be open and honest and not sugar coat things. You have to remember the only person you are holding back is yourself, the psychiatrist doesn't know you and whatever you tell them is all they have to work with, if you could tell them the whole story it will allow them to work with you at 100%.

Please, post back as much as you like, I am always happy to talk.

My best,

Jay