living at parents

[chociloni]

I had to move out of my house, 2 months ago now due to having a psycho landlord and being unemployed...I moved in with my parents, which I believe has made me even more depressed. They also live about a 4 hour drive south of my home city...so im feeling pretty isolated and out of it now. Although living down here Ive been able to save money, and have now paid off all of my debts. Even though my situation isnt great I feel I am now mentally stronger, I really cant stand living down here anymore! My family are so critical, such anxious people. I feel like moving on. I try to apply for jobs but just getting through all these written applications is such a strain. Im going away in 2 weeks time for 2 weeks which will be a nice break, but I will have to come back here afterwards! I wasnt necessarilly depressed before I moved down here but now I am! Im having counselling but I am struggling...I dont know which direction to go in....

[JessF]

Where are you applying for work chociloni? Are you planning to move back tow here you were or stay where your parents are?

[chociloni]

Im not planning on staying where my parents are. I am applying for work in Perth, Melbourne and Sydney. Im originally from Perth.

[JessF]

When you say you don't know which direction to go in, do you mean with what sort of work you want to do or life generally? I think its great that you've used the time at your parents to get out of debt, into counselling and get your strength back. The holiday sounds like a deserved reward for that hard work.

[chociloni]

the thought of going back to perth bores me to tears. although ive paid off debts im still not really all that financial...I have friends in both syd and melb...i would need a job first before i move. direction i dont know..i feel like a heavy rock..

[Neil_1]

Hi Chociloni

I’m so pleased that you have that debt paid off … that was a bit issue for you a little while back and that must be a big weight lifted from you now.

I know where you currently are isn’t a good place for you, likewise Perth isn’t going to be a great one for you either.  So I hope that there are jobs that you’ve been able to apply for in both Sydney and/or Melbourne?  It’s also great that you have friends in both of those places … that is a positive as well.

I really am seeing some good positives coming from you Chociloni … considering how you were when you first came here?  I hope that you feel the same way also? 

 My thought would be that when you first arrived on B.B., you were a heavy rock just out in the street or in a paddock somewhere.  Now I believe that you’re still that rock, but have had chunks chipped away from it and as a result, it’s not nearly as heavy and can be even moved around – just a little.

Hope to keep hearing from you,

Neil