Just need a mate...

[J45678]

Hi there...

I have no idea what I'm doing, I have never reached out like this. I'm one of those ridiculous people who think that "i've got this, I don't need help"
Where as a matter of fact... I do...

I'm a mum. 3 kids, partnered. 1 child with current partner, other 2 are from a different relationship.

I feel like I'm not good enough. Nothing ever is.
I can't keep the house tidy, it's easier to lay down, watch tv and pretend it isn't there.
I'm not good enough for my partner. It's clear to see.
I can't do anything right.

Heck. The fact I'm posting here when others have real issues, I'm probably being petty.

I just need someone to talk to. Someone who won't judge.
I'm sorry for taking up people's time. But ugh.

[Lillylane]

Hi J45678,

Thanks for posting and reaching out. You’re not being petty at all.

I’m a mum too (2 kids) and certainly familiar with the feeling of being overwhelmed. Burnout can happen to any of us. You’re not alone!

You mention that your partner sees you as ‘not good enough’. What has happened or been said that makes you feel that way?

It wouldn’t make things any easier for you if you feel you are not heard or supported.

It’s great that you’ve reached out (and not easy, I know). It’s a non judgmental place here to to say what we’re honestly feeling. Glad to talk with you 🙂

Lillylane

[AnonymousID]

I'm sure your partner loves you for who you are. You are there for more than just being a maid. Love with a partner should be unconditional

[Kat_]

Hi J45678,

Just want you to know that issues come in all shapes and sizes - none is more real or less real than the other. All that matters is how this is making you feel and what's going on for you.

I know what feeling useless looks like. I also know how hard it is to work up the motivation to do anything when you're feeling the way you might be feeling right now. It's nasty and it's hard. Usually when we feel this way, it's because something might have come up in our lives - however 'small' it might be. I know it sounds strange, but I hope maybe you can give yourself permission to feel what you need to feel, and try and leave the thoughts about that feeling being bad, or wrong, on the outskirts.

No one is useless, and no one is not good enough for another person. We are all just trying to work our way through things and everyone is entitled to take some time to just exist without having to follow obligation or responsibility.

Thank you for reaching out and I'm here if you want to speak again.

Kat_

[Dontlikemyself]

Hey. I hear you. I believe there are good people out there and Im sure they can help. Dont give up like i have. Persist on this forum. They are good people here.
Stu